Holding a grudge serves nobody — particularly if it’s against yourself.

Looking back to college and the decade or so that followed, I made some impressive mistakes.

I entered college with no major but quickly selected theatre. Why? Seemed like a good idea at the time.

I didn’t want to be an actor, stage manager, set designer, or house manager — I wanted to be a director. I even directed half a dozen plays during college. Of course, none of those were within the actual theatre department.

Most of the time, you could find me at the college radio stations. I helped run our FM station during my senior year —…


Be who you love — and your life will reflect that.

Self-love is often misunderstood and viewed as selfish, arrogant, egotistical, and many other negative connotations.

But the truth of self-love is that the person you spend the most time with is you. In fact, you cannot leave yourself, abandon yourself, or set yourself aside.

Of course, astral projection, distractions, drugs, alcohol, and other things can separate you from yourself temporarily. But no matter where you go — there you are. There is no getting away from yourself.

Hence why self-love is so damned important. If you cannot figure out how to love the person you spend ALL your time with…


Just because I am not a known quantity — I am not nobody.

There are a lot of well-known authors out there. Many write in the same genres that I do.

George RR Martin. Neil Gaiman. Andy Weir. Arthur C. Clark. Isaac Asimov. I’m sure you’ve heard of one if not all of them.

For every well-known author, there are dozens of lesser-known and unknown authors. Some have a specific appeal, others just haven’t gotten the Netflix, Prime, or movie deal to gain further recognition.

And then there are those just trying to get enough recognition to make a living off our work. …


The brain weasels lie about everything. I am going to put them in their place.

This was an excellent weekend for me.

I got to see a close friend receive a well-deserved accolade. As part of that, I got to spend time with other friends — an in-person gathering with people I only get to see a couple of times a year.

People I have not seen in at least 15 months.

The positivity of that experience is immeasurable. I am an ambivert — which, if you are unfamiliar with the term, is an introvert with extrovert tendencies. …


Communities are important for people who live inside their heads.

Many artists — particularly writers, painters, sculptors, woodworkers, and the like — mostly work solo. What we do is inside of our heads — and the product of that are the articles, books, paintings, statuary, and various other creations we produce.

When you largely work on your own, it’s easy to get lonely and feel like nobody understands you. Let’s face it — everyone is unique, of course. But those who choose to professionally practice their art are specifically unique.

What does that even mean? In a society that both encourages achievement and frowns upon diverging from the “norm”, choosing…


I am not who I was for good or ill — which is my choice. This truth is good because it recognizes change.

There is only one constant in the Universe: Change.

Change is always occurring, sometimes so infinitesimally slow that you cannot see nor fathom it. Other times it’s so swift and sudden that it can leave you shocked.

But change is constant.

The question is — how do you handle change? Some people resist it with every fiber of their being. Others will embrace change. Some people embrace some change and resist other change. And some people will do their damnedest to force change — sometimes for good and sometimes for ill.

Change may or may not be within your control…


Diet, exercise, life — sustainability is the key

I have been on the diet yo-yo since I was a kid. All my life I have been overweight to one degree or another.

Over the years, I’ve tried various forms of diets, exercise routines, and combinations of both to get the weight off. Despite success at various points, I’ve thus far always managed to slip. It wasn’t long before not only had I put the weight I lost back on — but topped it with another 10–20 pounds.

Now, the new practice I am currently undertaking is not simply focused on my weight — but also on the underlying…


I’ve written this before — and will write it all again.

In pursuit of living my philosophy, I have written the same things over and over again.

Despite the fact I’ve written this before, I know that I will write it again. And that’s simply because it bears repeating.

This applies to the following ideas/notions/concepts:

  • Consciousness creates reality
  • Mindfulness is conscious awareness of your sensory input as well as your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions
  • Change is the only constant in the Universe
  • The only thing I can control is myself
  • You choose positivity or negativity every day
  • There is no One True Way
  • There are always choices
  • Self-encouragement is recognition…


Workspace maintenance is important.

I have yet to meet an artist who doesn’t have at least some clutter in their workspace.

Some of them are necessary tools. Cooks have pots, pans, and utensils lying around; artists have scattered brushes, paints, solvents, and canvases; writers have notes, inspirational baubles, and the like around their desks.

Sure, there are exceptions to this. But I know, at least in my experience, when I am super-focused on my work, the maintenance of my workspace takes a hit.

For me, that means that paperwork from mundane matters gets piled on the desk, I neglect dusting, and disorder and chaos…


Never underestimate the positivity simple tasks can create.

When it comes to goals and the things we are working to do for our lives, they tend to be large.

These are not necessarily just the uber-achievement, huge-money-making large. These are also the not-instantaneous, multiple steps required large. Like building a business, evolving a relationship, or writing and selling a novel.

When you’re pressing towards such a goal, it’s easy to get caught up in the work that goes into it. It’s also easy to feel like you’re just spinning your wheels. This can be particularly complicated, and even frustrating when the goal requires outside matters.

If you have…

MJ Blehart

I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain. http://www.mjblehart.com

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