Many people dislike any push for positivity. Why? Because they feel it’s artificial. You are ignoring major issues both with yourself and the world at large. Positivity all the time, they will argue, is impossible.
On the one hand, they are correct. Always positive is impossible. As a human being, you will have experiences that are bad. You will have negative feelings, bad things happening to you, and other things that will occur well outside of your control that are going to be negative.
On the other hand, they are incorrect. Feeling positive and being positive do not ignore major issues — nor are they artificial. This is because the overarching concept behind positivity is the choice over negativity.
Abundance vs lack and scarcity
The world is full of people fighting perceived lack and scarcity where none truly exists. For example, immigrants, women, people of color, LGBTQ peoples are not taking jobs, opportunities, space, or what-have-you from a limited supply. Any and all limitations in these things are artificial.
This is a world of abundance. Besides the vast size of the cosmos itself, look at money and the ultra-rich. There are single individuals, like Jeff Bezos, who make more money in one day than what would be a comfortable salary to cover more than 3500 other people — for a whole year.
The money is there and clearly abundant.
Positivity is a product of abundance. Negativity, thus, is a product of lack and scarcity. Since positivity is more than a thought or emotion — but an attitude — the choice for whether to seek out positivity or not is wholly yours.
If you look at the world as full of wanting, insufficiency, and there not being enough — that’s probably what you are experiencing. If you look at the world as abundant, sufficient, and there being more than enough — then that is more likely what you will experience. Like attracts like and consciousness creates reality.
Again, things happen that will make you feel bad and otherwise not positive. This is unavoidable. But you get to choose your overall attitude. When you experience things that make your attitude negative it’s your choice how long to hold onto that. The decision is yours to stay negative or shift to positivity.
Attitude can be adjusted
When those things occur that make you feel bad, that cause you negativity, you are going to feel them as part of the overall human experience. This is utterly and totally normal.
But for how long?
That’s the part that is yours to decide. That choice belongs to you. How? By practicing mindfulness.
Mindfulness is the awareness, in the here-and-now, of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Ergo, if you are feeling bad and don’t know why, you should check-in with yourself. Ask questions to get a sense of where your headspace is. If the why of your thoughts and feelings is mysterious to you, chances are you have been working from your subconscious mind.
What that means is that you stopped engaging your conscious mind, ceased to work in the now, and your subconscious started to do the driving. That’s how you wind up feeling a certain way but can’t explain why.
When you are being mindful you are being aware of what you are thinking, what and how you are feeling, plus actions, inactions, and intentions therein. This gives you influence and control over the one thing that you have true influence and control over. Your mindset. Your headspace.
If you are working with a negative attitude you can change it. No, it’s not going to be an instantaneous change because attitudes tend to need time to be shifted. You don’t get where you are mentally in a day, usually, so getting out of it or to another mindful place will take some time and effort.
While always positive is impossible, attitude can be changed at will. When you decide to take action and mindfully make a change you gain more control of your life overall.
Always positive is impossible, it can be changed through mindful action
Knowing that always positive is impossible, you can choose to maintain a negative attitude when something untoward happens outside your control — or you can decide to change it. When you practice using mindfulness to be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you can control and change your attitude. From there you can choose to seek out, find and/or create positivity, which ultimately empowers you. When you feel empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that tends to spread to people around you.
As such, you can build more positive feelings and discover more reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That can be the impetus to improve any number of aspects of your life for the better, generating even more positivity and gratitude.
An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of immense positivity that can generate even more good energies — and that, like you, is always worthwhile.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, even when we are not always positive.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on February 10, 2020.