Are You Who You Desire to Be?

What does it take to live a life you truly desire to have?

Are you who you desire to be? If not, why not?

This is a simple question, certainly, but the answer is likely complicated.

As children, we all have dreams and aspirations. You wanted to be an astronaut, or a firefighter, or a doctor, or an explorer seeking new lands and opportunities. The things you wanted to do as a child may have been realistic, or very out there and fantastic.

Then you get slapped in the face by “reality.” During your time in school, while you were learning essential things that would help you as an adult, you also learned a lot of things that were “true” — except that they actually are not.

For example: Being an artist/writer/singer and the like is a struggle; you cannot possibly make money as an explorer; a person needs a college education to get a decent job; you come from the wrong background to be ‘X’; if you dream too big you will only crash harder when reality hits you. All of these and similar get tossed out there, often by well-meaning people who believe they are looking out for your best interests.

Our society loves labels. Many of these labels are complete garbage, and mostly cause artificial divisions to be created. There is something of an expectation in our culture for how to behave, what to do, and what to be; at the same time, there is this message that you can be anything you choose. Is it any wonder there is so much depression and anxiety out there?

A lot of people are not who they desire to be, because they believed the messages about what is and is not possible.

Consciousness creates reality. It is never too late to make a change.

Do you desire to be someone you are not?

In an ideal world, what would you do with yourself? Who would you be? Have you actually considered and visualized the perfect day in your perfect life?

Because we believe the “truth” about how our society works, we frequently compromise or even outright sacrifice our desires for the expected. When you decide that the world around you knows better than you what is best for your life, that’s what occurs.

I do feel the need to interject a slight downer here. For some life choices, there is a lot of preliminary work involved. For example, you want to be a doctor? The road to medical school and the degree is long and hard, and will require a lot of fortitude and strength. Not impossible, but it will be challenging.

The creation of some realities requires laser focus, and serious, hard and smart work. However, nothing worth having is ever easy. The work that goes into its creation causes a level of appreciation that in turn builds up positivity and strengthens your gratitude. From there, you open yourself to even more.

So what if you are in a life you would prefer not to be? What if you have desires and aspirations for something different? You get to choose to make it so. Or not.

Yes, for some people this is a major challenge and would require a significant life change. For others, this is going to be entirely a mental shift. It may take time and energy, and it may impact the world around you. But you are worthy and deserving of creating a life that lights you up.

Choices and decisions may have unintended consequences

First, it is super important to state this: You have no control over how anybody else feels. Yes, your actions may impact people, but you cannot control how anybody else feels.

This is not a license to intentionally cause distress or emotional harm to anyone else. Seeking to hurt someone does no good for anyone, and won’t help you get to a better place in life. Wouldn’t it be great if many of our selfish, so-called leaders cared more for other people than their own power? If they did, the rich would be paying a fair share of taxes, and funding education, housing, infrastructure, and other places for necessary growth. But I digress.

Second, you are the only one inside your head. As such, you alone know what you are thinking, and what and how you are feeling. Because this is the case, you get to choose what to do with it.

To consciously create any reality, you have to take a thought, energize it with feeling, and then take intentional actions to make it real. For example, let’s say you have an idea for an amazing restaurant. The idea is the thought about the restaurant. Then you need to feel what it would be like to be there, to experience the restaurant business as YOUR life, and really FEEL it, as much in the now as is possible.

The idea is hatched, the feelings have energized it — now you need to take intentional actions that will get you from where you are to where you desire to be. This is going to involve multiple actions, and they are going to have consequences.

Some are intended. Getting ServSafe certified, for example. Some are unintended, like the now-former coworker who is getting your job responsibilities when you leave.

Does your desire to be other than you are outweigh who you are now?

This is important, in especial if the changes you desire to make are at all drastic. Because you will likely cause hurt and disruption in other people, and well-meaning but unhelpful concerns for your wellbeing that will be tossed your way, you need to stay strong. It is very easy to give in.

What’s more, pursuing your dream and going after what you truly desire to be in this life is full of challenges, obstacles, and difficulties along the way. You and your resolve will be tested. The Universe is abundant, but since nothing worth having is ever easy, and you may be making a pretty drastic shift in your life, you’ll have your work cut out for you.

Remember, you are worthy and deserving of having a great life. We only get one go around this ball circling that sun. We are not meant to live in toil and tedium, we are capable of more. So long as you are not actively denying anyone else freedom or hope, you can create for yourself an incredible opportunity, whatever form it takes for you.

Study, become knowledgeable about how you desire to be will look when you are there. Empower yourself to succeed, and you can. Don’t give up when it gets hard, and know that you can find support when you need it.

Will you do what it takes to be whom you desire to be?

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Originally published at on May 8, 2019.

I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain.

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