When you have set up habitual ways of doing things, it is tremendously difficult to change them.
You don’t recognize all of your habitual behaviors as habits. When you think of habits, you think of things like smoking, drinking, chewing off our fingernails, and so on. But any routine you do on a regular basis is a habit.
Oftentimes, when you get stuck on the path you are trying to traverse, or having issues with conscious reality creation, you may need to identify and change bad habits.
The thing is, “bad” is a relatively subjective term. Many of the habits you could deem as bad are extremes. Many of your other habits that may seem bad are simply unhealthy, unproductive, often poor behaviors that sabotage your progress or hold you hostage in some way.
Changing your routine takes effort
I have been worked on changing my morning routine more than once. I’ve attempted to get to the gym. There have been efforts to get up earlier and set the coffee maker on a timer every night. I’ve put in the effort to shift away from an old routine of getting up, making coffee, going online, puttering about for an hour or two and then going to work.
Breaking from routine is challenging. There is often comfort in routine. Like an old bathrobe you luxuriate in, a routine is soft and familiar and safe.
Many of the self-help themed books I have read and listened to describe how, to make changes and get where you desire to be in life, you have to get uncomfortable. You need to do things that are not the norm, that break your routines and patterns and create new behaviors and habits.
One thing I need to work on is to stop berating myself and using poor self-talk when I do not reach the goal I am setting. I need to let every day stand all on its own because then the next day has the potential it needs to be different and to represent the changes I need and desire to make.
Consciousness creates reality
Mindfulness is about choice. I have chosen to be conscious in the now and mindful of that. However, more than just a choice, I also have to look at what I do from day to day along the way.
If the journey is as important, if not more important than the destination…then every action while on the journey should not be ignored, and needs to be considered.
Conscious reality creation and mindfulness are not easy. There are days I face my choices and become flustered, uncertain, even displeased and distressed. Why am I doing this? How come this is taking so long? Why doesn’t this seem to be working? Will I ever run out of questions?
Life is all about learning. I am learning new things every single day. There is always something new to gain knowledge about and something more to understand and discover. Quite probably the best way to learn anything, including becoming aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions via mindfulness, is to ask questions.
Questions bring awareness, and awareness is key to conscious reality creation. All of this ties into mindfulness.
As I write this, I am perfectly aware that I am feeling frustrated. I’m not where I desire to be, and other aspects of my life are making me tired and moody. I am feeling blah, feeling defeated, tired, distressed and unhappy. This means I’m questioning many things about my existence, and I am not seeing answers.
Persistence helps change routine
I know that I need to persist in order to break through this moment. The choice is entirely mine: let this negative feeling linger — or seek out a means by which to overcome it.
I can wallow in self-pity and annoyance over not making the change to my habits I desire — or I can move past it and shift my focus to positive things.
It’s also up to me to recognize the outside influences that have an impact on me. I am affected by the weather. Grey skies tend to bring down my mood. I am affected by politics. I cannot even begin to describe the largely negative emotions I feel over the current situation in the USA and elsewhere. It’s nearly impossible to ignore these outside pictures in my day-to-day life and experience.
Like working to change my habits, I get to choose whether to allow these outside influences to dominate my thoughts and feelings — or to acknowledge them, find a healthy means to release them and then move on. Maybe I need to type out a long and angry rant about things, or perhaps I need to find a punching bag to beat. Or maybe I just need to scream it out.
If I am not succeeding at making change, I need to acknowledge that, then work on letting it go. Once I release it, and only after I release it, I can work to build something better.
The decision is in your hands
Breaking the routine is hard. Life is generally made up of many different routines, so embedded in your day that you seldom even see them.
Getting free of them is tricky because first, you have to see them for the ineffectual habits that they are. Then, you can’t hold onto the ways they make you feel bad if you want to change
Everybody has good days and bad days. The challenge is allowing negativity to linger and continue to bring you down — or to find it, release it, and seek out better.
Breaking the routine is a challenge, but I believe the end result, even if you cannot currently see it, will be totally worthwhile. Just like you are totally worthwhile.
What routines do you need and want to break in your life?
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, as do your routines.