There are voices inside my head that often tell me I am worthless. Nobody cares about me. I am useless. Nothing I do is ever right, and I am a disappointment and a failure.
Do you have voices like that inside your head? Whatever you call them — brain weasels, squirrels in the brain, gremlins, f*#kwits, or what-have-you, they can be the cause of a ton of anxiety, depression, and similar negative feelings.
Let’s just put this out there — brain weasels lie! The negative stories that they tell you are untrue. They are liars and thieves.
Why thieves? Because they will steal your joy and calm at any opportunity.
Why do we have brain weasels?
I think this comes from several different places. Some are outside influences, but the majority are buried deep inside your subconscious.
What’s more, that burial is akin to a mummy’s tomb. There are all kinds of booby-traps between you and the tomb of the negative, false chambers, and miles of zig-zagging corridors and stone to get through.
Such internal sources often come from childhood. Things that you heard your parents say; things you were told by teachers, family, and friends; things you read or heard in a book or on TV. All of these seem innocuous at the time…but the impact is not apparent for years.
If, as a child, maybe you heard we can’t afford that or you’re crazy for thinking that or you don’t deserve that and the like. Even if not directed AT you, it could have planted a seed that laid dormant a long, long time. Years later, as an adult, when you were faced with a similar situation, the seed turned into a brain weasel and reminded you of the negativity.
On the other side, it’s possible someone has more recently told you/is telling you negative things. That’s not a good idea or do you understand the risk or do you really think you can do that and the like. It may be well-meaning or it may be unkind, but the impact is the same. Those voices have a reason to tell you nobody likes you, you are unworthy, and you might as well take a long walk off of a short pier.
No matter the why, it is important to recognize that brain weasels lie. What they tell you is untrue, but that is the basis of their very nature.
What ARE brain weasels and the like?
Brain weasels, squirrels in your brain, f*#kwits, and the like are manifestations of fear and doubt. They are sometimes in place as a defense mechanism to protect you from harm, but more often than not they are simply obnoxious, lying jerks.
For me, my biggest fear is that if I succeed OR fail, in the end, I will be utterly abandoned. Nobody will want to be with or near me, and I will be “exiled from the island” or such. I will find myself out in the cold, totally alone, and with nobody to turn to and nowhere to go.
Logically, I am pretty sure that’s not true. I am pretty certain I’d have to do something truly awful to create that reality. Yet, the brain weasels (for me they tend to be squirrels) tell me that I am no good, a terrible person, bad at the things I believe I am good at, and that I should stop trying to be what I am not already and accept my mediocrity, unimportance, and inability to change anything at all.
Look familiar? These short, simple statements are how the little buggers weasel their way into your psyche and mess with your head. They tell you these lies — but since they play off your existing fears and doubts, they don’t entirely FEEL like lies.
But they are. This is not the truth.
You are worthy and deserving of being awesome
This is not just a shameless sell promotion (because I created a book with this name) — but You Are Amazing! You are worthy and deserving of having an amazing, incredible life. You are a good person, good friend, and good at the things you do. You should keep working and striving to be and do the best that you can, and know that you can be incredible, important — and you can change yourself and the world.
The brain weasels are going to tell you that this is untrue. They will gnaw on all your fears and doubts, like a mynock chewing on the power cables of your starship in the vacuum of space. But they are lying. You ARE worthy and deserving of your friends, achievements, goals, dreams, ideas, family, and all else you have or desire to have.
How do I know this to be true? Because you are here. If you are reading this you are likely working on ways to improve yourself, learn, grow, and be better. That tells me that you are acting to not just survive, but thrive.
And even if you are just surviving, I know you are worthy and deserving.
Is anybody NOT worthy and deserving? Realistically, no — but — people who do things that intentionally hurt other people; people who discriminate against others; people who deny the rights of other people; people who only take and give nothing back to the world; they are worthy and deserving of the karma they incur for their actions and inactions. That’s a horse of a different color.
I wonder how hard a brain horse would stomp on a person’s psyche?
Let’s conclude by focusing on YOU
I want to just make this crystal clear. You are worthy and deserving of whatever you set your heart to. Your friends like you, other people like you, and even when you screw up you are still worthwhile.
Unless you have an intent to cause hurt or harm to anyone else, you are a good person. The brain weasels are liars, and you can stomp them out with mindfulness.
Mindfulness is your awareness of what you are thinking and what and how you are feeling, right here and now. When you practice mindfulness you are, in fact, arming yourself to release some brain foxes or brain hawks to attack and destroy the brain weasels.
You could also deploy brain cats, but herding them is never easy. But I digress.
Being aware of your mindset and what is in your own head disempowers the subconscious brain weasels. Yes, this does take effort and practice, but it, and you, are worth it.
Brain weasels lie! The truth is that you are worthy and deserving, and people like you.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and the brain weasels are telling lies.