Can You Have Guides Along Your Paths in Life?

Yes, but recognize the difference between guidance, obedience, and blind faith.

Murray "MJ" Blehart
7 min readNov 29, 2023


walking your paths with guides
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I frequently point out that you, and you alone, live in your head, heart, and soul. Nobody else is in there, it’s only you.

Hence, you’re the only one who can think, feel, intend, and act for you. All choices for your life belong to you alone. Nobody else can live your life for you. Neither can anyone else control you unless you cede any form of control to another.

However, while each of us walks our given paths in life on our own, that doesn’t mean that we can’t seek out guides along the way.

Guides for your path come in many different forms. They can be extremely esoteric and might be signs and portents recognized by only you. Some guides are people. This includes people you meet and know like friends, family, coworkers, and in-person teachers. It also includes people who provide books, podcasts, blogs, and other guidance that can help you choose and/or walk your paths.

This is all well and good. That is until a guide turns into more than a resource for information. Cult leaders are a perfect example of this issue.

Recognizing the difference between a guide and a demagogue/authoritarian is important to you being mindful of the choices you make, based on your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and actions.

Guides versus demagogues/authoritarians

I’ve read time and again about leaders, managers, and the like who fail to recognize and understand true leadership versus authoritarianism.

A true leader offers guidance. They provide a framework from which you can think, reason, and act. A true leader measures their success via your success. If you are doing well under their guidance they are doing well. You are not an inferior, you are someone they oversee and sometimes guide in various ways.

A demagogue or authoritarian leader isn’t a guide. They tell you what’s what and how things can, will, and should be. A demagogue/authoritarian doesn’t offer a framework that you are expected to work in; rather, they create a biased and usually self-aggrandizing framework to make…



Murray "MJ" Blehart

I explore mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to help & inspire. And I also write sci-fi/fantasy.