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Conflict, Negativity, and Triggers are Necessary
While I am a huge proponent of positivity, it’s opposites must exist, too.
One of the problems with toxic positivity is how it ignores, disregards, and dismisses negativity.
People come to see the idea of positivity as being all-or-nothing. All negativity, all bad should be dismissed, set aside, and not looked at in the least.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
We live in a Universe of yin and yang. Polar opposites like black and white, tall and short, fat and thin, and other notions with lots of grey and color between them. One cannot exist without the other. Every coin has two sides.
The Universe is less like a coin and more like a cylinder with flat ends. On the one side, ‘X’, on the other side, ‘Y’, and a whole lot of distance between them. In this example, positivity is ‘X’ and negativity is ‘Y’.
Neutrality is in the middle. Everything else can lean one way or the other. However, it goes deeper than that — because those opposite ends of the cylinder can instantly be swapped, too. That’s how a positive, happy, amazing relationship becomes a negative, miserable, awful relationship.
