Desire vs. Want

Murray "MJ" Blehart
4 min readJun 7, 2019

Because words matter.

When it comes to choosing the life you are most looking to lead, often times you talk about the things you want.

It’s totally normal and accepted to talk about wanting things. However, it’s important to recognize that, because words matter, want is not necessarily the best, most positive word to use.

Consciousness creates reality. If we are focused on “wanting” something, we don’t realize that we may be taking a lack approach.

One of the definitions of want is, according to, “to be deficient by the absence of some part or thing, or to feel a need (sometimes followed by for.)”

Desire, on the other hand, is not defined by lack or scarcity. One of its definitions, according to is, “to express a wish to obtain; ask for; request.”

Because a lot of our fear-based society is founded in lack and scarcity, being mindful of anything that feeds this matters. While your intent is important, it’s still a good idea to use words with caution. Hence why it can be a lot better to use “desire” in place of “want” for the life you are working to create and live.

This also applies to the words you think and don’t necessarily say.

Words in thoughts

For example, when you focus on wanting something, you are sending out to the universe a signal that could be saying, because I don’t think I have this or since this is lacking. It is not a very empowering approach.

If, on the other hand, you focus on desiring something, you are sending out to the universe a signal that may be saying, because I know there is plenty or since there is abundance. It is a much more empowering approach.

Do you have to police every single thought you have to look out for this subtle difference? No…and yes. When you actively work to employ techniques for manifestation, and work with conscious reality creation, you do have to take more intentional actions.

This, however, is like any other muscle. The more you use it, the more it becomes familiar, and you develop muscle memory as such. Over time it becomes automatic, and you don’t even have to do much at all to put it to use.

Murray "MJ" Blehart

I explore mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to help & inspire. And I also write sci-fi/fantasy.