Before you stress out because it’s Monday, and for most people the day you go back to work after the weekend, please take the following into consideration:
Reality is what YOU believe it is. If you think today is going to suck, you’re probably right. Recognize this and choose something positive.
Other people are outside of your control. There is nothing you can do about anyone else in the world and how they act. So if people get on your nerves that’s because you allowed them too. Choose something positive.
Politics has ALWAYS been ugly. It’s like a giant festival of disagreeableness. You get to vote, and you can protest and call/email/harass the politicians. But allowing yourself to become angry, hopeless, and negative in the process doesn’t serve you. Choose something positive.
Time is relative. That’s why an hour can feel like a minute and a minute can feel like an hour. The now, this moment, is the only time that is truly real. In this moment you can be aware and make a choice for how you will think, feel, and act. Choose something positive.
Like attracts like. Consciousness creates reality. Whether or not you believe in the Law of Attraction, it still tends to be a truism that what you put into the world you get back. So you can be unhappy, negative and entering the day and week with loathing — or you can choose something positive.
You matter. Whether you have a dream job or you are working for the worst boss ever, you matter. What you desire, who you are, and all that you seek to do matters. You deserve to have a satisfying life experience. You have the ability to choose something positive.
Attitude is a choice
If you go into the day feeling negative, that is a choice you have made. Sorry if that’s in-your-face, but it’s the truth. This IS a choice.
You may well have bills to pay that you can’t see how you will pay them; deadlines that are looming and threatening to go unmet; other people counting on you; various and sundry other stressors; and that’s totally legit. It can be frustrating, scary, upsetting, and the cause of any number of negative feelings.
I am in no way saying that’s not valid, nor that you can completely block/avoid/escape from negativity. But you DO get to choose if you will take on a negative attitude and increase the negativity — or — find/create/choose something positive to counter and rebalance the scale.
It doesn’t matter who you are — you will have both negativity and positivity in your life. Like other matters such as black/white, hot/cold, short/tall, and so forth — these are the extremes. There is a grey or multicolored space between positive/negative in which you probably exist most of the time.
But on the linear, relative scale between positive and negative, you get to choose if you skew one way or the other. Choose something negative to focus on or chose to focus on something positive.
I also completely recognize and acknowledge that this is something largely easier said than done. However — the means to do so are wholly and completely within your control. The overall attitude you choose to take belongs to you. That choice is a matter of practical mindfulness practice.
Practicing mindfulness is a choice
Mindfulness is both super-simple and super-complicated. The idea is easy while the practice takes effort. Mindfulness is awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and action — or in other words, awareness of your conscious mind.
Those matters that tend to drive you and me, such as bills, deadlines, and whatnot, tend to burrow into your subconscious. Once there, they can play havoc with your thoughts and take your emotions on unwanted skydiving trips and rollercoaster rides.
The best and frankly only way to combat subconscious thoughts and feelings is with conscious thoughts and feelings. To engage those you need to be mindful. Mindfulness is awareness. Awareness of your mindset it the one true control you have in this life.
Nobody but you is in your head. However, your subconscious is FULL of other people’s ideas, emotions, suggestions, demands, and whatnot. While they don’t control you and your mindset, they can, especially unchecked, drive your thoughts and feelings to places you would otherwise not go.
So practicing mindfulness is the way to take charge and move beyond this. Doing so is a matter of both getting ahold of your conscious thought, and then referencing it regularly and frequently to make choices.
The best way to become mindful and choose something positive is to ask mindful questions that pull you into the now.
These simple questions make you conscious of the now. That mindfulness will allow you to choose if you will take a positive or negative attitude towards the day/week/whatever.
You deserve to not feel lousy. Take today like a bull by the horns and go for it!
Deciding to choose something positive isn’t hard, but it does require action
Knowing that your attitude and mindset are a choice, you get to decide if you will use mindfulness to seek/find positives or negatives. When you work on being conscious of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you get to choose your attitude. Choosing to find/create something positive ultimately empowers you. When you feel empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that tends to spread to people around you.
As such, you can build more positive feelings and discover more reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That can be the impetus to improve any number of aspects of your life for the better, generating even more positivity and gratitude.
An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of immense positivity that can generate even more good energies — and that, like you, is always worthwhile.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, and that is something positive.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on February 24, 2020.