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Do You Accept What is or Choose What Could Possibly Be?
What could possibly be is less improbable than you might imagine.
I frequently use the phrase “it is what it is”.
What I often fail to realize is that while the intent of saying “it is what it is” is to avoid argument and debate — it can also empower unwanted things. That additionally denies potential and possibility to accept what is.
Admittedly, my regular use of this is to end debates with my mom. Sure, it often cuts short judgment and arguments. But it also closes a door as well.
Consciousness creates reality. When I make the statement “it is what it is” — subconsciously or with limited intent — I might not recognize what I am giving power to. For the sake of ending the debate, I could be ignoring something else, and more important.
“It is what it is” is the equivalent of flipping the off-switch, shutting the door, or closing a portal. Whatever metaphor I apply, this statement without intent could have unwanted consequences.
For example — if the debate is over money and retirement planning, saying “it is what it is” tells the Universe that I accept the present, imperfect, less-than-ideal status of my finances. Likewise, saying “it is what it is” regarding the status of my…
