Do you ever wonder if it matters?
I mean, is any of the effort to be mindful and aware and work on self-improvement and personal development and so on and so forth worth it?
One could argue that we have little to no real control over the world around us, and bad things happen to good people, and many who are undeserving get away with all kinds of things. So does awareness, mindfulness, and self-care really matter?
Short answer: Absolutely.
Longer answer: While there is certainly all kinds of crazy stuff happening in the world, and many things that can cause a person to feel hopeless and disempowered, the truth is that you have ALL the power.
It’s important here to take a couple things into account. First, as Einstein said, “Reality is merely and illusion, albeit a persistent one.” Your perception of reality, and the world around you, is unique to you and you alone.
Ergo, you have the power to change how you perceive your world.
The other thing to take into account is that change is constant. Like it or not, the world is changing all the time, and you can choose to change with it, against it, or let it change around you.
The choice is yours.
Why does mindfulness matter?
Thing happen every single day. Many are completely neutral, and have no leanings towards good nor bad. However, because our society is positively obsessed with labels and division, we often assign this notion to the things that happen.
What’s more, because change is constant, no matter how comfortable you get with the familiar aspects of your environment, they are going to shift and change. You can attempt to resist this, but odds are pretty good doing so will only increase your frustrations.
When you are mindful, you become aware of what you are thinking, and how and what you are feeling. Yes, I write this frequently, but that’s because it’s the truth, and I need to sink it into my psyche as much as to share it for you to embed into your psyche.
What you think and feel are the only things you have any real influence and potential control over. Your thoughts and feelings, the what and how of your feelings, belong to only you. No matter what we call a given feeling, how I feel it is not going to be the same as how you feel it. Why? Perception.
We all have our own unique perception of the universe. And this is why Einstein said that reality is a very persistent illusion. Once you buy into an idea and take it in as truth, it becomes what you believe it to be.
This is why being mindful matters. Rather than letting things just happen in your life, you can strive to influence and control them through your thoughts and feelings. You can decide if doing something makes you unhappy not to do it.
You have a lot more choice than you may think. You are empowered to choose your life.
Being a victim of circumstance is a choice
Things happen to people. Some are good, some are bad, some are neither, but you may perceive them as one or the other. We human beings tend to filter everything that happens in our lives through our individual perceptions.
Let me offer an objective example. I am, technically, red/green colorblind. What that means is that when I do that dot test at the eye doctor’s, I can’t make out the number in the red/green dots. I can distinguish red from green, I know which is which — but certain shades, particularly of red, throw me off.
Some people who are red/green colorblind cannot tell the difference between them. Or see them opposite, I’ve been told. Whatever the case may be, how we perceive red and green differs between those of us classified as red/green colorblind — and differs even further from those of you who are not.
Further, I could choose to feel victimized over this issue. Of course I could do nothing to control or change it, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have the choice to decide that I am a victim. Ludicrous, right? Now apply that to something over which you have an option to make change, and see how victimhood is a choice.
It is important to note that in the moment, you may be a victim of a happening. You could be the victim of a robbery, attack, rape, assault, and many other terrible, unpleasant, and frightening happenings. Nobody chooses to be victimized by someone else.
You are only a victim of circumstance if you choose to be.
Does it matter?
Of course it does. Because this is your one and only life, it matters that you choose to actually live it. It is all-too-easy to just let life live you.
When you practice mindfulness, and strive to improve and develop and grow your life, you gain influence and control over how your life will be.
For a lot of people, this requires a degree of disconnect from the world. Specifically, from information online and such. It’s too easy to be overwhelmed with negativity, and thus feel that hopelessness that makes you question if it matters at all.
Further, many people need to overcome past programming. A lot of the things we believe about life, the Universe, and everything, are based on old information that is untrue to who you are in the now. Altering this can go against a deep-set grain, and take a lot of time and effort.
Mindfulness is active conscious reality creation. This, as opposed to letting your subconscious have control. This matters because we are each empowered to make choices and decisions for the lives we lead, and to choose the best we can to make this experience amazing.
Don’t give up hope. Being mindful and aware and working on your self matters. You are worthy and deserving of better than the worst aspects of our world today. Take charge of your thoughts and feelings, and see how that can help empower you to change your world for the better.