Vampires are a classic monster trope in literature.
How many movies and books are all about vampires of various and sundry ilk? Even popular shows like The Simpsons have made fun of just how frequently played-out vampirism is.
Yet I am still going to bring up another type of vampire, but this one is not fictional. Energy vampires are far too real.
Doesn’t matter if you are in any way spiritual, into the new-age hooky-spooky thing or not — you’ve encountered an energy vampire in your life. How do I know this? Because everyone has had this experience at one time or another.
What is an energy vampire?
In the simplest terms, an energy vampire is a person who sucks energy from other people. This tends to be emotional, spiritual, and from there can cross into the physical.
For example, you have likely spent time with someone who just drains you. Willful or not, something about time with that person leaves you feeling spent. It’s like they siphoned your willpower in some way.
That’s because they have. Energy vampires lean on other people emotionally, mentally, and psychically to feed themselves and keep themselves going. They are like a mosquito or a leech, except instead of sucking blood they suck energy.
Let me clarify one important matter. EVERYTHING is energy. The whole of the Cosmos, from the smallest subatomic particle to the largest galaxy is energy at its core. Energy transmutes form and can be physical and not.
There are rivers and streams of energy in a constant state of flow all around you and me and everyone and everything. The energy moves around you, through you, and sometimes you take it in — while other times you don’t.
Most things that pass between people are actually the passing of energy. This can be physical touch, conversation, and even gestures. Most energy moves passively, while some is active and intentional. Much of the energy exchanges between people are passive in nature, but can easily tack on a more active aspect.
Ever feel someone’s eyes boring into you from across a room? You feel it because of the active energy being transmitted.
Energy vampires tend to draw energy from other people. There are two types of energy vampires.
The passive energy vampire
The vast majority of energy vampires have no intent to suck your energy from you. But because they tend to be wanting, they subconsciously seek out and draw in energy from those around them.
Much of this is a byproduct of their largely subconscious need for connection. As such, they are in a constant state of passively drawing energies into themselves. When they get near someone they draw from their substantial and active energetic being.
To visualize this, imagine you are standing in a chamber, and holding out your hand to stop the flow of air. If there is a fan blowing on you, you will feel some pressure on your outstretched hand, but if not you may get nothing more than a vague sense of stopped-flow.
A person coming near is equivalent to moving you from the chamber of air to a flowing river of water. Now, when you hold out your hand, you can feel the flow stop and go around it. Even if the flow is minuscule, you will still feel the water held against your hand.
Water is more physically substantial than air. Likewise, the energy of a person is more physically substantial than ever-flowing, undirected Universal energies.
With little to no intent, the passive energy vampire draws emotional, mental, psychic, and even physical support from a person who is near them. What’s more, this tends to not be a constant state of being and is usually connected to deep emotion, though they themselves may not see it clearly.
Lack of intent makes them passive. Though they can be draining and tiring, they are mostly harmless.
The active energy vampire
Please note — despite intent, the active energy vampire may not recognize their own vampirism.
This tends to be a person who needs attention. They want eyes on them, they want sympathy, they desire to be desired. They could be extremely egotistical and even narcissistic, or massively depressed and self-deprecating. Or worse, all of the above.
This is the byproduct of a subconscious need for connection. The active energy vampire is in a constant state of actively drawing energies into themselves. They intentionally feed off other people’s energies due to belief in their own lack and scarcity, fear, and in worst-case scenarios a desire to overwhelm everyone else.
Though this is an intentional act, that doesn’t mean it is a conscious one. Most energy vampires do not consciously recognize their own draw of energy.
A lot of this stems from them being less-than-conscious overall. If they were more aware of what they were thinking and what and how they were feeling, they’d be less inclined to drawing energy from outside sources.
With mostly subconscious intent, active energy vampires draw emotional, mental, psychic, and even physical support from a person who is near them. What’s more, this tends to be a constant state of being and is usually connected to deep emotion, though they themselves may not see it clearly.
Intent makes them active. Though they can be draining, upsetting, and tiring, they are mostly harmless. However, they might be people you can only take on infrequent occasions, in small doses, and because of this, they tend to not get any better due to increased neediness.
Fully active, intentional energy vampires are rare. But you will recognize them because it is unmistakable that they are working to draw all the energy around them, and their intent for control is clear.
Combating energy vampires
Even the most new-agey hooky-spooky sixth-sense practitioner has very limited defenses against energy vampires. What’s more, for the most part, we can’t avoid them because they tend to be friends, lovers, and people we care about.
The best way to handle them is to become aware of how they impact you. Further, guard yourself when you will be spending a lot of time with them, or when you can see they are being particularly draining (intentionally or not).
Do your best to draw in more universal energies to steel yourself against the onslaught.
Remember that you can control only your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. Thus, you can present an energy vampire with tools to change their diet and shift them away from leeching energy from those around them…but you can’t make them stop if they choose not to.
The best option is to be prepared, and empathetic rather than sympathetic. That way you can be helpful without getting drawn into their neediness.
Finally, it is important to note that everyone has periods of energy vampirism. This is simply a part of human nature and the need for connection. When you feel down or are having an emotionally trying experience, you may inadvertently leech energies off the people you care about.
If you recognize that this is happening, you have the power to be mindful and take necessary steps to change it. Don’t allow guilt or shame into your psyche, because that will ultimately further disempower you, and potentially expand your need for outside connection, empathy, and validation.
You are powerful and pretty damned amazing. You can handle energy vampire attacks, and keep yourself and your loved ones safe.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, as does the sanctity of your energetic self.