Find the Good in the Bad

There are always two sides to every coin.

As we approach Christmas, and round the final corner of the year, there is a lot to reflect on.

Let’s face it — 2020 was one of the most tumultuous years ever. Everyone everywhere was impacted by something this year. Hence why many see a dumpster fire as the perfect representation.

The pandemic snuck up on us — at least in the United States — because our leadership was too busy with their self-absorbed bullshit to handle it properly. That’s why it’s only gotten worse.

But all the blame doesn’t belong to the leadership. Lots and lots of people have shown how incredibly selfish and self-righteous they are. Refusals to take the simplest precautions — wear masks, social distance, not gather together in tight spaces — have come with the flimsiest, most selfish excuses.

I don’t know anyone who hasn’t been impacted by this. Almost everyone now knows someone who died from COVID-19, jobs have been lost, businesses shuttered, lives impact by working from home, and hybrid schooling and other craziness related to this year.

Then — because a pandemic wasn’t enough fun — families have been torn apart due to politics getting way out of hand.

Unless you live in a cave disconnected from the world — and if you are reading this, then I know that’s not the case — you’ve been impacted by this insane year. So, so many stories of bad, awful, terrible things seem to dominate everything.

But you know what? There has also been some astonishing good. And it’s important that we put our focus on that.

Good things in the big picture

Let’s start big, shall we? For all the terrible, overarching occurrences of 2020, there have been some really good things, too.

Joe Biden won the Presidential election. Despite a false narrative of fraud and cheating — disproven over and over again — In less than a month, Trump will be out of office. It will be nice to have a leader who doesn’t resort to name-calling, petulant temper tantrums, and incoherent Twitter messages at all hours of the day and night. He may be imperfect on a lot of levels, but Biden actually has empathy, compassion, and kindness towards other people.

Scientists developed a vaccine for COVID-19. Two of them, in fact. That is huge. While it’s not a cure, it will help start us on the path to end this pandemic.

Certain celebrities and big names have done incredible things to help people. Guy Fieri has raised a lot of money to help the heavily slammed restaurant industry. Dolly Parton has given huge sums of money towards research. Other big names have done a great deal to lend a hand or donate funds to people in need.

When the first lockdowns came about, pollution dropped noticeably, and we found that we CAN impact climate change for the better.

The technology we created to connect us — that has disconnected us now — served its purpose after all. When we need to remain physically apart, our technology has let us still come together.

So there has been good in the big picture. What about on an individual basis?

The good in the bad

You are still here

For some people, simply surviving up to this point has been enough. While many have accomplished things despite this crazy, upsetting, uncertain year — many have just worked their asses off keeping their heads above water.

That, in and of itself, IS an impressive accomplishment.

This year has taken a toll on everyone. While some have used the adversity to go places with their life experience and do things, many more just got through it.

You should be proud of yourself for getting here. Then, recognize that if you can survive this, you can survive anything.

The other side of this situation is still massively uncertain. It doesn’t help that various forces of chaos are resisting so hard you can cut the intangible tension with a knife. But life will go on and we will come through this.

But this is where we have a tremendous amount of power.

If you have been living on the bad side of the coin, it’s time to flip it.

Flip the coin

You and I get one shot at this existence. While our inner beings — our energies — are immortal, these meat popsicles are not. As such, how we live here and now is wholly on you and me.

If you have been largely experiencing bad upon bad, negative after negative, it’s time to flip the coin. As there are two sides to every coin — you can turn it over to the good.

For me, this is where increased productivity in my writing is coming in. I self-published three novels in 2020 — and am currently on track to double that number in 2021. I have also taken a chance and invested more money than I am strictly comfortable doing to hire a marketing company to help me get to the next level.

It’s important that I not deny I have a certain level of privilege that’s allowed me to do this. But whatever your situation might be, you still have a choice.

Consciousness creates reality. If your focus is on negativity — that’s what you are drawing in. Flip the coin, focus on positivity, and see where that leads you.

If things are bad, and you are scared to take a chance, ask yourself this — what have you got to lose? If you feel like shit, and life has been sucky as all get-out, chances are if it doesn’t get better, neither will it get worse. (Yes, I know it could — but so long as you are on this side of the grave anything remains possible).

Seek out stories of people who have found good in these bad times. That will help you to find your own, too. As Audrey Hepburn famously said,

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”

Use mindfulness to get centered

Mindfulness is your conscious awareness in the here-and-now of what’s in your head. This occurs on three levels.

On the surface, the easiest level to access, it’s your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions. Knowing what you are thinking, what and how you are feeling, what you are doing, and why, tells you what you can and will attract. Conscious reality creation starts here.

The next level is how the tangibles of the first level impact your perception of the Universe. Thus, it’s your mindset/headspace/psyche and overall sense of being. Who you are, looking out of your eyes at the world is made up of this.

Deeper down, you find the beliefs and habits that form how you experience life. When you can reach this, you can see habits and beliefs that don’t serve you — and make choices and decisions to change/alter them.

Mindfulness is how you flip the coin and find the good in the bad.

I know this year has been rough. But no matter what you are experiencing, you’re able to flip the coin and change things. You are not alone, and you are worthy and deserving of finding good even in the bad that may be around you.

Every little bit counts. Discount nothing as too insignificant to create change. You can find good, even in the bad, and alter your trajectory for the better.

I believe in you. Go out there, kick-ass, and do some good for yourself — and the world.

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Thank you for reading. I am MJ Blehart. I write about mindfulness, conscious reality creation, positivity, and similar life lessons.
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