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Finding and/or Creating Balance with Positivity
Positivity is a great tool for finding and/or creating balance.
Nobody has a life that is utterly fair or easy. Everyone has good days, bad days, amazing days, godawful days, and everything in-between.
When it comes to my life, all I can control is me. That means I can take charge of my life experience, how and what I think, feel, intend, and act upon. Things can, will, and do happen that will cause me to think and feel in certain ways at certain times. But overall, I have control over that.
What does that mean? For example, if I get into a car accident, my immediate, visceral reaction might be anger if it’s not my fault; distress if it is my fault; or a mix of both or some other powerful negative emotion.
Immediately after that initial reaction, I can take back control. Or not. There are three primary choices:
- Just go with it and see what happens
- Let the negative emotion take me down an unreasonable path
- Take back control via mindfulness to be logical and reasonable
It is entirely possible to take all three of these in this order — or some combination. But whatever happens, I am faced with choosing to take the control that I can — or not.
