When you are walking a path that you have chosen in the process of Pathwalking, it is good to go confidently along the way.
Whenever you are tentative and uncertain, it will have an impact on the work that you are doing. It will send a message to the Universe that you are not sure of the way you are going. You allow room for doubt to come into play and open yourself up to complicating your process.
One of the important aspects of conscious reality creation is confidence. When you are working on directing your thoughts and feelings to take intentional actions to achieve a goal there is no room for doubt. This is because doubt and uncertainty tend to dig below your conscious mind to your subconscious.
If these negative thoughts and feelings burrow into your subconscious, they plant seeds of more doubt, uncertainty, and even fear. This, in turn, can sabotage your efforts.
This can be extremely insidious. Before you know it has happened, you find yourself asking questions about your purpose, your path, the validity of your goal, your self-worth, and more. You may find that you second-guess yourself and do not believe you deserve to achieve what you are aiming for.
Confidence, real or an act, matters
Real confidence is something I know that I have trouble maintaining. What’s more, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance that I am careful to avoid. The last thing I want to do is be so confident that I come across as cocky.
Further, real confidence is a matter of certainty. When you are venturing into the uncertain, no matter your personal philosophy and beliefs, being truly confident can be a challenge. It’s called the unknown because many aspects of it are not and cannot be known. Thus, being truly, really confident is going straddle the line of cockiness and chutzpah.
When you are moving through an unknown and uncertain situation, you may need to put on an act of confidence. Acting confident, even when you are not going confidently into a situation, can create real confidence.
How does that work? Confidence can be both tangible and intangible. The tangible includes sitting and standing-up, straight-back, walking purposefully, dressing sharply, speaking clearly. Not strutting and speaking like a bullshit artist — exuding physical confidence and speaking with authority and purpose.
Even if you are not feeling totally confident, changing your physical postures can create confidence.
When I was the President of a Chamber of Commerce, I ran a monthly breakfast meeting. I felt, more often than not, that I had no idea what I was doing there. But I dressed in my best sport coat, stood up straight, spoke eloquently, and exuded confidence in my leadership.
Yes, this made me feel more confident. Other business leaders respected me in the role, so I believe I did it well.
I could go confidently or go home — so I went confidently, and felt more confident in the process.
Go confidently to empower your path
When you practice Pathwalking with confidence you make it harder for doubt, uncertainty, and other negatives to take root.
When you are choosing your own way to find and create the best you that you can be, numerous forces will align against you. Some are “well-meaning” while others are straightforward, unhelpful, and even unkind.
The “well-meaning” forces tend to be friends, family, acquaintances, and coworkers. Much of this comes from them seeing you change, and being uncertain about how it will impact both you AND your interactions with them.
The “well-meaning” negativity tends to look like this:
- I understand what you are doing, but did you know…
- This is something I think you need to know for your own good…
- Do you realize what could happen if you fail?
- How will you support yourself and your loved ones?
And other similar statements. These tend to be stated by people “looking out for you” and your best interests and such.
Much of this is born of our fear-based society and how the collective conscious tends to react to breaking from the norm.
The straightforward, unhelpful, and unkind resistance you may meet could come from people who are jealous of your decisions. Maybe they would choose their own path, but do not feel it can be done for whatever reason or reasons.
This can also come from your own subconscious thoughts and old, outdated beliefs. Because breaking away from the norm is scary, fear is where most of this resistance comes from.
This negativity tends to look like this:
- You are unworthy of accomplishing that goal
- Who are you to think you deserve that?
- Everyone and everything you love will bail on you
- You’re not good enough to do that
Confidence, real or an act, can counter all of this.
Confidence and mindfulness
When you are practicing conscious reality creation, you need to be mindful. That means in the here-and-now you have to be aware of what you are thinking and what and how you are feeling. From there you take your actions with intent to traverse the path or paths.
When you are mindful, being confident, real or an act, can prevent the doubt, doubters, and other negativity from boring into your psyche. It can make a huge difference between simply navigating twists, turns, and obstacles — and creating them for yourself.
When I am not being confident in my choices and decisions, I tend to self-sabotage. Because of a lot of old, outdated beliefs I haven’t worked out, lacking confidence as I work on creating the reality best suited to me allows me to get in my own way. That unhelpful, unkind negativity sneaks into my subconscious and uses doubt to power itself.
In being mindful of this tendency on my own part I can be better prepared to combat it.
I need to be more aware of this happening, and employ going confidently down my paths, even if it’s just an act. Hold my head up, keep my back straight, and speak succinctly. Acting confident can build real confidence.
You are equally as capable of doing this as I am. You are worthy and deserving of living the best, fullest life that you can. Go confidently along whatever paths you choose, and kick some ass.
Confidence, real or an act, can have a massive impact on how you walk a given path. Do you walk your paths confidently?
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and you can choose to go confidently down your desired paths.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on August 21, 2019.