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Good Question — What Am I Doing and Why Am I Doing It?
And then — why does the answer to this question constantly change?
Do you ever stop and ask, “What am I doing?” When you get the answer, does it sometimes raise the additional question of “Why am I doing it?”
I am going to presume that you can answer YES to both questions.
How does this happen? There are, of course, many reasons. But we frequently don’t question them.
Why? Because we question far fewer things than we should.
As children, we ask lots and lots of questions. If you were lucky, you got answers to many of them that went beyond “because”. Many of those answers took us down paths that allowed us to grow and evolve in lots of different ways.
Somewhere along the line — I suspect in grade school — we start to ask fewer questions. Or, really, we only ask questions at appropriate times or when called upon to do so. This is a form of conditioning that builds conformity that keeps a classroom orderly. But then, it gets extended outwards and forms a new normal.
Around high school, many of us learned that too many questions made us socially awkward. Some move past this and keep asking questions anyhow. Others, however, don’t — so that they fit in.
