How Do I Get and Stay Out of My Way More Regularly?
I know that it starts with recognizing what it looks like to get in my way.
Self-sabotage is just one piece of an intricate puzzle.
I am that puzzle. And that is complex because who I am now is both made of and not made of who I was in the past. Then, to complicate that, who I could be can only come from now and not who I was in the past. Lessons learned in the past can be taken to the future — but that’s all.
As I analyze my life here and now, I feel very much like something is in my way. Something is creating an obstruction that I then find myself prone to trip or stumble over.
Yes, as the title says — that something is me, myself, and I.
As my study of the causes of self-sabotage has been rather focused over the past few weeks, I’ve learned new ways to move beyond it. Thanks to Gary John Bishop’s books, I am working with a new perspective and approach.
The short of it is this: The conclusions that I have drawn along the way about myself, other people, and life are the root of how I self-sabotage. Since they are conclusions — and thus, as “conclusion” states, the ending — there’s no point in working to change, alter, or otherwise undo this. They are elements of the past.
Thus, I need to work in the here and now to move forward.
But that’s where the new challenge arises. Here and now — I feel like I am still getting in my way.
What does that even mean?
Let’s use a real goal that I have in mind for myself. I’d like to drop my weight below 200lbs. With that, I’d like to experience the corresponding lessening of my gut and dropping a couple of sizes in the waistband of my pants. All this by my 50th birthday.
It is not unreasonable — and I have just over 5 months, now, to do it. I’m currently 260lbs. To get to 200lbs, that’s 12 pounds a month — which is 3 pounds a week. That’s challenging, but not outside of being doable.
Right. I see the goal. And there are a lot of very good reasons for me to reach it.
