How Do You Respond to Upsetting, Annoying, and Disappointing Things That Happen?

Not the initial, visceral response, but what you do next.

Murray "MJ" Blehart
6 min readNov 20, 2023

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How Do You Respond to Upsetting, Annoying, and Disappointing Things That Happen?
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I’m about to publish my first new book in 2 years. This is super exciting because this book is the conclusion to the series I’ve been working on since 2015.

Saturday morning, before departing for an all-day event 2 hours away, I checked my email. The eBook variation — available for pre-order — had been canceled. WTAF? They claim I didn’t upload the final file in time. But I’m completely certain that I did. I chose to respond to the email, send the file again, and hope it will be resolved.

It wasn’t until Sunday morning that I checked my email again. No can do, I must re-create the eBook. What about the existing paperback pre-order? Why can’t I work off this same combined title? It’s not until Monday morning that I have my answer.

Much to my annoyance, I must recreate the eBook and reupload it. Plus, because it’s 24 hours until it was scheduled to be published, I must publish it now.

This is super annoying, really upsetting, and disappointing. Anyone who pre-ordered the eBook was informed the book — in that form — wasn’t coming. That has the potential to negatively impact my reputation as an author.

My initial, visceral reaction to this all has been anger, and a desire to curse, scream, lash out, and rail against the Universe. But that was only the immediate, visceral reaction I had. What good would any of that do me or my book?

None whatsoever. What can I do?

Pause, reflect, redirect

I stopped and took a deep breath. Okay, this is upsetting, annoying, disappointing, and frustrating. All true and all, I think, justifiable. But now I have a choice in front of me.

React in a useless but potentially releasing way. Shout, curse out my luck, blame myself for failing, get angry, and generally let this negatively impact me, my day, my weekend, or however long I choose.

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I can acknowledge that this sucks and ask, “What the fuck?” Then take whatever action is available to me to resolve this problem.

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Murray "MJ" Blehart

I explore mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to help & inspire. And I also write sci-fi/fantasy. http://www.mjblehart.com