I don’t think anyone isn’t being impacted by what’s happening. There is a madness in the world that’s impossible to miss.
It cannot be neglected. You can’t just ignore and hope it will go away. In fact, please don’t do that. I believe a great deal of what we are contending with right now is the byproduct of ignoring it.
Lots of things fall under the moniker of “it.”
The uncertainty and fear are like an ice bath. Or a frozen lake we’ve fallen into. It’s uncomfortable, it’s often hard to breathe, and while some people will try to help you out — others are just as likely to push you under.
Either way, to get through this you need to begin with yourself.
Unfortunately, putting yourself first is frowned upon. Immediately, thoughts turn to selfishness. But that’s not so.
Selfishness is not putting yourself first. It’s denying something to others by doing so. It’s sharing a pizza with three friends, and rather than 2 slices each you take 3. Selfishness is distracting someone to jump ahead of them in line. It’s knowingly placing yourself above other people and not caring what consequences — if any — those around you suffer.
I could go on and on with the far-too numerous examples right out in front of us all. But I would rather get to the point.
How will we get through this?
By practicing Perseverance, mindfulness, focus, and just being — we can get through this. Together or separately.
However, allow me to address the elephant in the room.
We WILL get through this
The biggest question on almost everyone’s mind right now is “what if?” There is little to no certainty in anything at all in the world presently. We have never before faced such an incredible divide and disparity as we do right now.
What if Trump wins another term? What if Biden wins? Regarding COVID-19 — what if they can’t produce a vaccine? What if I lose my job because of this? What if the Supreme Court removes more LGBTQ+ protections and overturns Roe v. Wade?
These are big, complicated, wholly uncertain questions that we have little to no control over. Some are really scary, too. But the problem with constantly asking “what if?” is that it creates more uncertainty and more questions than answers.
These big picture questions will have an impact on us all in one way or another. But we can only do so much until they come to pass — or not. Either way — we WILL get through this.
How can I be so certain? Because we always do.
I remember thinking about how awful a president I thought George W. Bush was. In the light of the current officeholder — yeah, I got nothing.
Every time I have lost a job I thought — great, how am I going to pay my bills now? But I found a way and got through it.
If you are reading this, you woke up this morning. If yesterday was a terrible, no good, godawful day — congrats, welcome to today. You got through it.
That’s how I know we WILL get through this.
The real question is — how do I get through this with less pain and suffering? Because really, that’s what concerns us most. Suffering and pain because of this.
The following are four ways you can get through this.
To quote Yoda,
“Do, or do not. There is no try.”
Perseverance is doing. Sometimes it feels effortless, while at other times it’s a real struggle. But when you persevere, you push on and push through.
We tend to be fond of looking ahead. If you work a normal 9–5 type of weekday job, you probably look ahead to the weekend. But to get there, you have to persevere through today. Then, you have to do it tomorrow.
But you can. And you do.
To persevere is to get back up every time someone or something knocks you down. It’s walking against a freezing wind to get indoors. It’s pressing onwards in every way.
You keep on keeping on. Yes, today might suck — but you will get through it. Also, yes, tomorrow might suck too. But you will get through it. You always have. You always do. Perseverance is persistence despite everything.
Even when you feel like quitting — or take a day to hide under the blankets and not face the world — you still persevere.
That is one key way that you will get through this.
First and foremost — this is practical mindfulness. That means being conscious and aware of yourself rather than subconscious and half-aware.
What’s the difference? Your subconscious mind works 24/7. When you persevere through a bad day, odds are you keep your head down and go by rote. Little to no thought, you just carry through.
Sometimes this helps to simply get you through. But it leaves you few to no options and makes reclaiming your mindset/headspace/psyche harder.
Simply put, mindfulness is awareness of yourself. Specifically, in the present moment.
On the surface, that’s being conscious and aware of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions. The subconscious will think and feel and lead you to act subconsciously, too. That’s how you eat a whole family-sized bag of chips in front of the TV — before you realize you’ve done so.
Once you are conscious of the surface elements, that opens you to delving further into your mindset/headspace/psyche. Knowing yourself opens you to recognize that if you dislike what you find you can change it.
Remember, this is the only thing over which you truly have control. Your mindfulness. You have no control over outside influences, other people, the environment, and all else.
Mindfulness helps you find ways to get through this. Whatever this is. Sometimes it feels like a lie — and it may feel selfish — but it’s not. Your practice of mindfulness lets you see options and alternatives and ways through this.
All it takes is asking questions like:
· What am I thinking?
· What am I feeling?
· How am I feeling?
· What am I doing?
When you ask these and similar questions, you make yourself consciously aware — and mindful as such. When your conscious awareness is in control, getting through this becomes less uncertain and scary.
The big picture is confusing, disorienting, and can be terrifying. All the “what if?” questions and concerns. The outside forces that seem to be constantly at work to bring about misery and chaos are overwhelming.
One way to get through this is by narrowing your focus. Rather than pay attention to everything all at once — which, frankly, you can’t — focus on one thing.
Specifically, focus on something you can do something about. How you do your job. Spending time with loved ones. Taking colored pencils to an adult coloring book. Writing. Reading.
Be careful when you practice focus not to let it make you even less clear. For example — social media is a trap. I have fallen down the Facebook rabbit hole time and again. It’s often the equivalent of diving into “a swimming pool filled with double-edged razor blades” (thank you, Weird Al.) One way or another, you are knowingly cutting into yourself (literally or figuratively).
The same goes for TV. I am all for watching an awesome program — but don’t let it take away your focus. Binging can be a great escape — but it can also unfocus you further. This is where mindfulness helps.
Most of all, try to focus on yourself. What are you eating? What are you consuming? Are you doing anything to energize yourself? Can you do anything to improve yourself?
This is NOT selfish. Why? Because it doesn’t take away from anyone else. It gives you more clarity, which opens you to having more to give others.
A car with a quarter tank of gas won’t get as far as a car with a full tank. You work the same way. You can’t give as much running on empty as you can when full.
You are here.
That may not seem like much — but it is. You are here. That’s incredible.
Did you know that you are important? Really, you are. Why? Because you are comprised of infinite potential and possibility.
Hooky-spooky bullshit? Nope. Scientific truth. That all the atoms came together to form the molecules that formed the cells that became, ultimately, you — is amazing. You, as such, are amazing.
I know that can be hard to believe. In the face of the great fear and uncertainty of our times, we feel really small. But you are important, you are here, and you can and will get through this.
You have gotten through difficulties before. And you will get through them now, and again when they happen.
Each one offers you a new opportunity to learn and grow. Or not. Some people don’t, can’t, and won’t — because they would much rather be a victim to the whims of the Universe. To circumstance. To who-knows-what.
Just be. It empowers you in so many ways when you accept you are here, that you will get through this, and that you are eminently capable.
It’s easy to get lost in the noise of the collective consciousness. Recognizing your own value and worth can be challenging. But when you just be, you open yourself to potential and possibility.
Lots of people let life live them. They just go with the flow, sway as the wind blows, and hardly do more than just exist. Others literally or figuratively choose to curl up in a ball and await death. But when you just be, you take control and tell the Universe, “move over — I’m driving!”
Just be. Just live. Good days or bad, you can and will get through this.
We WILL get through this
There are a lot of challenges in the days ahead. The world is changing at a pace most are not prepared to handle.
But whatever comes, we will get through this. But we get to choose if we will do so with misery or hope. Positivity or negativity. Intent or none.
Yes, there will be bad days. You will, at times, feel hopeless, lost, angry, and depressed. But you need to have these negative feelings to understand, appreciate, and seek out the positives.
You have more power than you realize. Why? Because you, and you alone, are inside your head. Thus, you, and you alone, can choose and decide how today is going to be.
When you take that to heart, you can take the internal knowledge and turn it outside. That energy, that empowerment, can be shared and used to help others find theirs.
To take control of how you get through this, use perseverance, mindfulness, focus, and just be. All of this empowers you.
Remember — you are not alone. We will get through this. But maybe more than just get through — we can find and create new opportunities to share and spread change for the better.
I believe in you. You will get through this. Will you choose to believe in yourself?
Thank you for reading. I am MJ Blehart. I write about mindfulness, conscious reality creation, positivity, and similar life lessons.
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