Not unless I know that I can keep them.

A long time ago, I determined that if I made a promise, I had to keep it. Straight forward, direct to the point. If I say the words “I promise” then I will deliver.

That said, I determined that I would not make promises.

This is not some random avoidance thing, or a means to keep from doing things. It is extremely specific. If I tell you I will do something, I will do it. Or at the very least, make an attempt to do it. But a promise is more sacred and inviolable. So unless I know I can absolutely keep my word and deliver, I will not make a promise.

Life is full of uncertainty

Much of this idea of not making a promise I cannot keep is borne in the reality that the world is full of uncertainty. Just because you made a plan to do ‘X’ doesn’t mean circumstances won’t interfere with your plan.

You have control over only one person in the entire Universe. You. Apart from you yourself, you have control over nothing and nobody. Ergo, you cannot determine how other people will act, what the weather is going to do, or how the actions of another will impact people around them. You are only able to influence, control, and alter yourself and your circumstances in various ways.

Nobody is inside your head but you. So the things over which you have the greatest influence and control is your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Aside from certain physical matters involving your self, that’s the totality of the control you have over your life experience.

It turns out, really, that this is quite a lot of control. But the power of the collective consciousness, and how like attracts like with the Law of Attraction, draws you into society and those who make it up. This is part of where standing against and apart from the norm gets so tricky.

Due to all that uncertainty, I have made it my practice to make no promises. Because of how I see a promise as a contract, if I am not completely certain I can deliver, then I will not set myself up to fail.

Promises are powerful

I cannot tell you where this notion came to me from, but most of my life I have seen a promise as something powerful, meaningful, and important. You do not make a promise unless you are certain you can keep it. That’s just what I believe.

Why? Why is a promise so powerful to me?

I have been wracking my brain trying to come up with the answer to this question. Stretching as far back into my memory as I can, striving to understand where this notion got rooted.

All I can think of is that something happened, way way back, that made me see a promise as extra-powerful, and not to be made lightly. Somehow I developed the belief that making a promise was like chiseling an agreement into stone. Promises made must be kept.

Whatever the reason, to this day I do not make a promise unless I can do everything in my power to keep it. If I say the words “I promise” I will make every attempt, take every action, do whatever I can to deliver.

This is why I do not make promises. Not unless I am reasonably assured I can deliver.

Am I the only one who feels that way? How do you feel about making and keeping promises?

You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, no matter how you feel about making and keeping promises.

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I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain. http://www.mjblehart.com

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