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I’m Sorry — Yes, I F#*ked Up! Guess Who Is Beating Me Up the Most?
Spoiler alert — it’s me.
A few months back, in an attempt to offer a friend some encouraging perspective — I did exactly the opposite. I totally fucked up, caused my friend anxiety, self-doubt, and a host of other unpleasantness utterly the opposite of the intent of my words.
Immediately after, I was informed that I messed this up by a mutual friend. I apologized and explained my reasoning.
Now, months later, I learn it was so bad that it impacted my friend’s partner, and another mutual friend was asked to address me about this.
My intentions were good. But I can’t deny — and own up to — that I fucked up royally. With one careless statement — with no ill intent meant in the slightest — I upset a whole bunch of people.
I had no idea that this was happening, and deeply regret that I caused it.
And I don’t blame anyone involved for being upset with me, disappointed in me, discouraged by me, or otherwise pissed. I’m disappointed in me, discouraged by me, and pissed at myself for fucking up so royally and causing so much pain.
For someone who prides himself on usually being incredibly tactful, this was so very much the opposite of that. Tactless, unintentionally…
