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It is All a Choice
Everything you focus on, do, and think about is a choice you make.
I used to be a victim of circumstance.
I used to believe that shit happened, and nothing was mine to control. There was a destiny, a fate that I could not escape, and the Universe would continue to mess with me at every step.
It was easy to blame my parents for my relationship failings. That, in turn, allowed me to pass accountability for my constant struggles with my weight onto some event or other. Depression? Yeah, that was why I couldn’t find a job that I was willing to stick with, why I was never settled, and why U2’s I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For was my theme song.
For years, I treated the symptoms but never attacked the underlying disease. When you got right down to it — the choices I made were responsible.
That can be a bitter pill to swallow. Often, it comes with self-recrimination, guilt, and other negative feelings. How could I be so ‘X’ and allow myself to go there? Turns out, that, too, is a choice.
It is all a choice. Everything you do, everything you have done. All of it comes down to what you did and did not — or — do and do not choose.
When I started to see this for what it is, I realized that I could change it. And it’s…
