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It’s Okay to Get it Wrong and F*ck it Up
The surprising positivity in being imperfect.
You have screwed up before. You chose the wrong toothpaste, an inconsiderate lover, the wrong time to take a trip, the wrong job, and tons of other things both big and small.
Congratulations, you are a human being. Well done. Yet you are constantly being bombarded by messages about perfection, buying “X” to look good, doing “Y” to feel good, and the like, in a way that makes getting it wrong and fucking it up look inexcusable.
Over the past few decades, extremes have gained a lot of traction. The opposite ends are where all the focus goes, even though most things fall somewhere between said extremes. Then, tons of false equivalences get tied to these opposites. If you are this and believe that, you must also be this and that other thing — which have no true connection. A perfect example is how religion, morality, and spirituality are constantly tied together, and people wave their religion like a flag that provides them morality and spirituality — when they couldn’t be more blatantly amoral and materialistic/profane.
It’s easy to lose yourself in the morass of this bullshit. This also makes it seem like you’re imperfect, a fuck-up, unworthy, underserving, and just a bad person when you fail to meet these unreal expectations.
