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Judgment Does Nobody Any Good
Being judgy is easy but, like blame, fixes nothing.
Spend any time whatsoever reading or watching the news or browsing social media, and you will see example after example after example of judgment.
Some of it is meant to point out problems and place the blame where, admittedly, it belongs. Other elements of judgment come from seeing some less-than-ideal people receive their comeuppance. Sometimes it’s a matter of seeing what someone else is going through and either judging yourself better off, worse off, or riding the waters in a similar boat.
I do this too. It’s part of human nature. We compare ourselves to people both inside and outside of our lives because that’s what we’re taught to do. Judgment comes shockingly naturally.
The problem is that judgment does nobody any good. It’s not any different from blame in that it determines who is doing wrong from a sense of moral, ethical, or experiential position.
While blame tends to shunt responsibility and accountability, judgment flat-out gives it to the judged. Even when that is you.
While there might be a hit of satisfaction that comes immediately after judgment, it’s only fleeting. That’s because it is superficial.
