I began to write about positivity every Monday after encountering an over-abundance of negativity. Lots of people lamenting the end of the weekend, complaining about work, whining about adulting, and the usual anti-Monday anti-work and/or school complaints.
If you go into a Monday expecting it to suck, chances are good you will not be disappointed. So why not, instead, look for ways to expect Monday to be full of promise and possibility?
Your Monday can be full of mayhem or mystery. Or maybe it’s clearer if I present this idea without the alliteration as problem or potential?
It’s easy to fall into the “Mondays suck” mentality. Whether or not you believe in the Law of Attraction, odds are pretty good that if that’s what you think it IS what you experience. When you go into something expecting lousiness that tends to be what you get. Why? Because you are expecting it. Also, because you are looking for it.
So when the choice is mayhem or mystery, do you really want the mayhem/problems? Or would you rather take an approach of seeking mystery/possibility?
Choose your own adventure
Life tends to be what you make of it. So when you approach it with distress, uncertainty, and other negative thoughts and feelings that are going to be your experience.
I know that things happen to you along the way. Lots of things occur that are way outside of your control, many of which suck. Traffic, sick kids, flat tires, angry and rude people, oversleeping, and other matters over which you have ZERO control can and will happen.
That’s part of how life goes. When it is not how you desire it to be you can approach with resignation and continue to expect it to be crap…or stop, pause, take a deep breath and choose to look for positivity instead.
I know this can seem like an impossible task. But it’s not. There are always positive things to be found. Frequently, they are quite minor and seemingly insignificant. However, that doesn’t mean they are not there to be found.
Positive things can include a friend or loved one being available to talk, the warmth of a morning shower, sunlight, the song you play in the car on the way to work, or gratitude for having a job — even if it’s imperfect. Any and all of these can be a spark of positivity in a potentially drab and negative world.
There are always negatives to be found, of course. But the choice of where you put your focus is wholly on you. What adventure would you choose, that of mayhem or mystery, negativity or positivity?
Decide on mayhem or mystery
When things happen to you — and they will — you have to decide if they will have a lasting impact or a temporary one. Do you hold onto the bad and let it be your day, or release it and seek positivity instead?
There are times when this seems really ludicrous. It feels like the idea of influence, choice, control, and any decisions are out of your hands. But that’s simply not true. Why? Because nobody is in your head but you. There is no one who can be mindful of what YOU are thinking, feeling and acting upon — save you.
This is mindfulness in action. When crap happens you can let it enter into your psyche, overwhelm your subconscious mind and let it be your day. Or, when crap happens you can see it, acknowledge it, then decide to release it and move on.
Manic maddening Monday of mayhem — or — mild mitigated Monday of mystery? Your day, your mindset, your decision, your choice. No matter what happens or not it’s up to you what kind of day you will have.
What kind of day/week/life would you prefer to experience?
Finding positivity on a Monday isn’t hard, but it does require action
Knowing that you are empowered to decide if you will have mayhem or mystery on any given day, you get to choose what today looks and feels like for you. When you decide to release the negative and not let it overwhelm your psyche, and seek out the positive that ultimately empowers you. When you feel empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that tends to spread to other people around you.
As such, you can build more positive feelings and discover more reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That can be the impetus to improve any number of aspects of your life for the better, generating even more gratitude.
Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness leads to love. Love is the ultimate positive attitude. An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of positivity that begets even more good energies — and that, like you, is always worthwhile.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter every day of the week.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on January 20, 2020.