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My 5 Rules for Dating and/or Hooking-up
Well, not so much rules…more like guidelines.
Experience is an interesting teacher. For a long time, during most of my 20s and 30s, I was seldom in serious relationships. I was dating various women…and from time to time not exactly dating, but tending to get naked with.
With these experiences, I developed several personal rules for dating and/or hooking-up.
While I am calling them rules, in reality, they’re just good guidelines. What’s more, there are some provisos, quid pro quo, and general exceptions to more than one of these.
If you are offended by any of these I apologize. They may not apply to or resonate with you. That’s fine. I’m not you, you’re not me. Also — I am a heterosexual male, so these rules are male and female connections.
Thus ends my public service announcement.
Rule # 1: No Virgins
Yes, at some point in everybody’s dating and sexual experience they are going to encounter (or be) a virgin. Before you engage in sexual intercourse you are defined as a virgin.
Once you yourself are no longer a virgin, unless you are already deeply into the person and expecting to build a long-term relationship, this is a good rule to apply.
