This timeline is surreal.
It’s like one thing gets piled atop another and then another and then another. My perspective is United States centric, FYI.
First, the country has been gaslit by quite-probably the most corrupt, selfish, destructive administration in history. And a political party so interested in only themselves that they enable and allow the ongoing idiocy.
Then a global pandemic sweeps in — and said administration not only does NOTHING worth a damn to address it — they only prop up ideas that enrich them and theirs. Because of their utter lack of leadership, people are being ridiculous and the infection rate and the death toll continue to rise. Oh, but the economy…
THEN, because this isn’t enough, protests erupt across the nation over police brutality in the face of multiple murders by police of black people. These have made the blatant racism inherent in our over-militarized police stand out. Unarmed black and ethnically diverse protesters? Break out tear gas and rubber bullets on them. Heavily armed white protesters? They’re harmless, leave ’em be.
(If you don’t see the problem, consider that you could be a part of it.)
And THEN, because this isn’t nearly enough crap, the election is coming up — and the previously mentioned administration has blatantly admitted they will cheat to win.
These are the impersonal things going on in the world. On a more personal level, you may be dealing with unemployment, a work furlough, kids and schooling issues, friends and family divided by the above-mentioned insanity, and more.
Is it any wonder so many are nearing or reaching their breaking point?
Breaking points are inevitable and variable
Everyone has a breaking point. This is dependent on the topic, circumstances, experiences, tolerances, and other factors that make you who you are.
Some people break relatively easily. Other people go considerably further before breaking. And then there are those who seem virtually unbreakable — until they aren’t anymore.
But the truth is everyone has a point at which enough is enough. The last straw is reached or has broken the camel’s back, and the breaking occurs.
What that looks like is different — just as every single one of us is different. Some people cry. Other people get super-angry and shout, or break things, or go off on a huge online rant. Still, other people just withdraw into themselves and cease to engage.
And of course, for some, it is a combination of all of the above, and/or some other happening when they have hit their breaking point.
What’s more, for some the breaking point is catharsis. You get a release of some sort and move on. For others, however, the breaking point wrecks them — and moving on is the challenge.
Whatever the case may be, you have the power to overcome your breaking point.
Because reaching the breaking point is not the end. Rather, it’s a new beginning.
Overcoming your breaking point
It is very important to acknowledge that your breaking point is NOT the end. It may feel like the end, but that’s because it is merely AN ending.
Most things in life have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Some you can control — some not so much. Childhood ends. Jobs end. Friendships end. Relationships end. Lives, ultimately, end.
The breaking point will come due to multiple variables — and it will take different forms. Hell, the breaking point for this topic could be quite different from the breaking point for that topic.
What’s more, how the breaking point manifests will differ, too.
Once you reach your breaking point, the next step is release. If the breaking point isn’t a release — it’s important to choose to make it so.
If you become uber-depressed, withdrawn, antisocial, and utterly distant from everything upon reaching your breaking point — that’s okay. It’s a perfectly natural response. However, you can choose for how long you will remain there.
How do you overcome the breaking point? With mindfulness. By becoming conscious of your thoughts and feelings post breaking point, you gain the ability to take action to deal with them.
Asking questions such as these make you conscious and mindful:
· What made me break?
· How did that make me feel?
· What am I feeling now?
· How do I work with this?
· What am I thinking now?
· Where can I go from here?
All of these, (and other questions like them,) just FYI, should be asked aloud or written out. That gives them a lot more power than thought alone. It also gives you the option to re-read or talk out (with yourself or another) why and how you reached the breaking point.
Then comes this step:
If, like me, you tend to be a rock-stable, steady, unbending, and unbreakable — breaking feels like failing.
EVERYBODY has a breaking point. Even those with the least amount of limits can and will break from time to time.
Why? Because emotions are complicated. What’s more, they are often in conflict with logic and reason. So, when they overwhelm you — or get so jumbled that you can’t take another impact — you break.
Recognize that it is okay that you may have reached your breaking point. If in so doing, you insulted someone, yelled at people, lashed out, or worried those who care about you — it can feel like you betrayed them AND yourself.
If you did have collateral damage from reaching your breaking point, then by all means apologize where necessary.
But also — forgive yourself. You are only human. Nobody is completely unflappable. Everybody experiences something that takes them to a breaking point. Once reached, however, it is not the end — it’s a new start.
Forgiving yourself for breaking opens you to choose how to move forward. Because life is always in motion.
Okay, so you reached your breaking point. Now that you are past it — how will you choose to move forward?
The choice IS yours. You can decide how to overcome the breaking point and keep on keeping on.
Everybody has a breaking point. Reaching it is never the end — you can overcome it one way or another.
Know that you are worthy and deserving of using mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done our thoughts, feelings, and actions matter — and when you reach a breaking point you can and will overcome it.