There is nobody inside your head but you. The only person who can think, feel, and do for you is you.
It is nearly impossible to be completely cut-off from the world. So many things are constantly happening, and the connectivity between everyone via smartphones, the internet and such is a mixed blessing and curse. You can see how you are in comparison to person ‘x’ and couple ‘y’, and make judgments on your life and choices from there.
This, however, is not conducive to good mental health. First, you are not in competition with anyone. Second, your life is neither better nor worse than anyone else’s. And third, nobody can tell you what to do or how to be and what you should have in your life…except for you.
Your perception of life, the Universe, and everything is entirely on you. That’s in part because nobody else is inside your head and can think your thoughts, feel your feelings, or do things intentionally or not — except for you. Also, nobody can make you do, be, have, feel, think, or act unless you allow them to.
That’s not to say that things happen that cause you to think and feel in certain ways. That’s part of the human experience. But what you do with it and the perception you take on from it is entirely yours to choose.
You decide how you will perceive your life
Life is unpredictable. No matter what you plan, the expectations you have, and the things you desire, unexpected shit will happen. Relationships come and go, jobs are won and lost, friends ebb and flow, and environments tend to extreme unpredictability. Today’s perfect marriage may be perfect tomorrow or turn into the ugliest divorce you could ever have had a nightmare about.
When life changes in a way you were not expecting nor wanting, how you perceive it now is entirely up to you. Do you see it as over, wrecked, destroyed, and forlorn? Or do you see it instead as a fresh start, repaired, reborn, and hopeful? Your perspective matters.
I am not denying that there are awful things happening over which you may have little or no control. There are some terrible things happening in the world at large and to people you may know and care about. While you cannot (and should not) ignore these things, you also need to keep your own life in perspective.
It feels selfish, right? How can you perform self-care and worry about your own life perspective in the face of so much awfulness? It comes down to this — what can you do about that stuff? Fretting over it and worrying about it is frequently all you can do.
Vote in the elections, write and call the politicians and other leaders, organize and/or attend protests, and do what you can to keep up the necessary resistance. But do not neglect your own life in the process.
Your perception of the world at large is directly impacted by your perception of yourself and your life. If you see your life as in the shitter and coming apart, chances are all the other outside stuff looks just as bad or worse.
Perception is part of mindfulness
How you perceive yourself is mindfulness. When you are not being conscious and aware of that, odds are that your subconscious is in control.
So all the outside crap you see happening in the world today might dominate your perception. Even if it doesn’t, if you are finding and feeling negativity everywhere it takes very little for that to overwhelm your perceptions.
Those in power mostly choose to lead through fear, creating artificial lack and scarcity, and denying people basic human rights and general decency. They have no empathy and cause some very real hurt. If they can keep you focused on what THEY are doing they disempower you.
Crowds turn. Collective consciousness shifts. Change can, does, and will happen for the better. Progress cannot be stopped. Being mindful of your perception of the world, and more specifically your headspace within it can be a point of light in the darkness.
If you can read this now, you are likely not suffering. You’re probably not imprisoned, and as bad as your life might be it could be a hell of a lot worse. Take that into perspective, and see that you have a lot more power you can use to see the good in your life and apply some positivity from that to make it better.
When you empower yourself you inevitably empower those around you.
No, it’s not easy, and there are no quick-fixes — but that doesn’t make it untrue. I believe that it’s totally worthwhile, and so are you. Nobody else can see the world through your eyes or from the inside of your head except for you. How and what do you choose?
Controlling how you perceive your life isn’t hard, but it does require action
Knowing that you can choose how you perceive your life, you can choose to see it as positive or negative. When you choose to look for, find, and create positives and work to grow, change, and improve your life that ultimately empowers you. When you feel empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that tends to spread to people around you.
As such, you can build more positive feelings and discover more reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That can be the impetus to improve any number of aspects of your life for the better, generating even more positivity and gratitude.
An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of immense positivity that can generate even more good energies — and that, like you, is always worthwhile.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, as does our perception of ourselves.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on February 3, 2020.