Release Your Feelings

Holding onto feelings — good or bad — can negatively impact your wellbeing. Releasing your feelings can be cathartic.

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Without going into the current world situation — because I don’t feel like rehashing it — just about everyone I know is under emotional strain right now.

The collective consciousness that makes up our shared reality — particularly in the United States — is strained. The level of fear, uncertainty, and all the other emotions this brings out is so unusual that it’s straining many to the breaking point.

Because of lockdowns, social distancing, and necessary precautions — and those who refuse to practice them — emotions are building up. Tempers are short, frustration is high, and it builds up like a dam in a 500-year storm. Before you know it, there will be overflow or even a burst. That will do a lot of damage in its wake.

This is why you need to release your feelings. No matter if there are good or bad, you can’t just let them build-up — or the dam will burst and there will be consequences.

Releasing bad feelings

Feelings in general are super-uber-complicated. They are completely devoid of reason and logic. They often make no sense whatsoever and can be so intense that they overwhelm every other aspect of your being.

Negatives feelings are not — for the record — stronger. But they are more pervasive. This is because we live in a fear-based society rather than a reason-based one. Fear, as such, is wielded like a scythe through a wheat field to rally the troops, rile up the people, and generally disempower many for the benefit of just a few.

Because they tend to be everywhere and overwhelming, it feels like bad feelings are stronger. They’re not, they are just more visible.

When you are inundated and overwhelmed by negativity — and bad feelings build up inside of you — they need to be released, a little at a time. That prevents the dam from bursting.

To do this, you need to talk things out with people, shout, scream, write out a rant, or do something that brings the bad feeling to the surface so that you can release it.

When you don’t release bad feelings, they can manifest into ugly things on multiple plains. Bad feelings contribute to stress, which can lead to cancer, heart attacks, strokes, and numerous other unpleasant happenings.

When you allow the dam to burst the blast radius is difficult to control. You may cause a lot of hurts — both to yourself and others. Partial release along the way keeps you level and helps you not to be overwhelmed by bad feelings.

Releasing good feelings

Why would you need to release good feelings? Because the Universe is all about balance.

There are yin and yang, black and white, and various extremes in every aspect of the Universe. An overabundance of anything at all tips the balance — and that can be problematic on many levels.

Take money. For the most part, money is not a bad thing. It is currency — currency is energy, and energy is not inherently bad. There is more than enough money in the world for everyone to be comfortable, to cover the basics, and to allow people to live without struggling.

But some people hoard their money. You get people like Jeff Bezos — the richest man in the world — who keeps acquiring more and more money. In the meantime, he barely pays an adequate salary to the people on whose backs his money is made. So, you get an imbalance. He is not — by any stretch of the imagination — the only uber-wealthy person following this model.

This can be applied to good feelings. Take romantic love as an example. It is a wonderful, positive, good feeling. But if you hold onto it and build it up without some release along the way — acts of affection, writing sonnets, singing love songs, and so on — it, too, can become toxic.

You get so caught up in love that it turns to obsession. The next thing you know you’re smothering someone — literally or metaphorically — because you haven’t released the good feelings.

The dam will still burst, without release, no matter what feelings it holds in.

It takes small acts to release your feelings

Good or bad, the release of feelings is a necessity. Another reason why is that it clears some space so that emotions don’t overwhelm you.

People are made up of mind, body, and spirit. Or, put another way, the mental, the physical, and the emotional.

Because the Universe is all about balance — so, too, is your body.

Too much mind can have an impact on the physical and emotional; too much emotion can impact the physical and the mental; too much bodywork can impact the mind and spirit as such. There needs to be thought, feeling, and action — mind, spirit, and body — for a balanced equation.

Emotions can be used to overwhelm the senses. That’s how religious, political, and spiritual leaders convince vast swaths of people to act counter to their wellbeing.

This is why releasing emotions is so important. Without doing so, you position yourself to be emotionally preyed upon by the unscrupulous.

Yes, too much attention on the physical and mental is also problematic — but it’s emotion that gets weaponized most frequently.

There are many very small acts you can do that release emotion. But first, you must be conscious of them. That means practicing mindfulness so that you are consciously aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Otherwise, your subconscious mind may be doing the driving. That can lead to overflow — because of the lack of filters in the subconscious mind.

Once you are conscious of your feelings, release can take a variety of forms.

· Breathe deep.

· Exercise.

· Write a blog.

· Talk out personal issues.

· Converse with a confidant.

· Scream.

· Masturbate or have consensual sex.

· Listen to music.

· Watch cat videos online.

· Take a bubble bath.

· Punch a pillow.

All of these and more can and will release your emotions — good or bad.

Take care of yourself and others

It is important to have feelings. But it’s equally important to be mindful of them — as well as your body and mind — because if they are not released that could overwhelm you.

This is a part of self-care. But it also helps you to be in better communication with other people.

I know a lot of people who tend to be overly emotional — intentionally or otherwise. When they don’t release, they explode in some form or other. Like a poorly made bomb, the blast radius can be devastating to way more people than they would desire.

What’s more, I don’t believe anyone intends to hurt anyone else overall. If you do — well, let’s just say there are other matters at play, then. This is why releasing emotions is about your health and wellbeing, as well as that of the people you care about.

I don’t like seeing people I care about hurting. Do you? It’s particularly unpleasant if I am at all the cause of their suffering. But if you don’t tell me I’ve upset you — and then explode at me — now you’ve hurt us both.

A release before the dam bursting could have kept us both in balance, made our relationship stronger, and created pathways for future understanding. That’s why holding on to feelings — good or bad — can negatively impact your wellbeing.

I believe that if more people were mindful of not allowing their feelings to build up without release, they would be far less susceptible to manipulation by the fear-mongers. That, ultimately, begins with you and me.

Releasing your feelings can be cathartic.

Know that you are worthy and deserving of using mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done our thoughts, feelings, and actions matter, as does balancing them.

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I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain. http://www.mjblehart.com

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