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Sometimes it’s Best to Back Down
Done can be better than right. In some situations, it is better to reach the end even if the outcome is not exactly how you desire it to be.
There are going to be times when you are in conflict with someone. Sometimes you stick to your guns because you know you are in the right, and you will not negotiate with unreasonable demands.
Other times it comes down to principles. You hold a moral high-ground, or somebody needs to learn a lesson, or you simply will not back down.
Then, at times, it comes down to the overall impact. Will not backing down have a broader impact on friends, family, and other relationships? Or, more importantly, will it impact your own mental health?
When you are in this sort of situation you need to decide what’s most important. Stand your ground until you get the outcome you desire or choose to take the high ground for the sake of your own mental health?
You always have a choice
Several years ago I wanted to sell a house I co-owned with someone else. My initial request to put the house for sale met resistance for some time. Eventually, the co-owner agreed to sell…only to back out when a real bid came in.
We didn’t speak for a good year after that. I was really angry. First, I couldn’t get the…
