I am going to state, for the record, that I talk to myself.
This takes on different forms for different occasions. Often, when writing, I speak as I type (and that helps me clarify the words and make sure they make sense). When I am editing something I wrote I regularly read it aloud (this, FYI, reveals grammatical errors really well).
Occasionally, when I take a shower, I talk to myself about where my head is. Sometimes I sing. Other times I play out fanciful stories and even ideas for projects I am working on.
Lately, when I go out walking I talk to myself. This is a therapy session with me for me. I analyze what I am thinking and feeling, and explore the shortcomings, fears, outdated beliefs, as well as the wins, new stronger beliefs, and my resolve. This is where I really take a long hard look at where I am, where I desire to be going, and where I have been, too.
This can be both a little disturbing and utterly cathartic. But it’s been really useful in helping me to find the mindset and headspace I most desire to exist within.
Fortunately, in the age of cell phones and wireless headphones, I am unconcerned about what anyone is going to think if they see me talking to myself. How do they know I am not conversing with someone else?
This is, I firmly believe, a very healthy practice.
Talking with people helps you get to know them
When you meet someone new, one of the best ways to get to know them is to talk to them. Yes, I know that people meet online often, and they can get to know one another from there.
But it’s just a starting point. To really get to know someone, you need to talk to them. Their voice conveys a lot of different things: emotion, confidence, sarcasm, nervousness, how long they take to think before speaking, and far more. When you talk to someone you get to know them on a deeper level because voices convey a lot of information way beyond words.
So why wouldn’t you talk to yourself? Hearing the nuances and tones in your own voice can help you be more mindful of what is happening inside your own head.
When you talk to yourself, just like talking to other people, you get to better know yourself. Staying just inside your head and thinking a conversation with yourself can get broken-up, distracted, confused, and diverted. Speaking aloud to yourself, though, you can have a real conversation.
This is not crazy. If you really desire to know who you are, where you have been and where you want to go, you need to ask questions. Like writing something out, asking questions to yourself opens you up to find the answers. And not just far-flung, ethereal answers, but actual answers as if another asked these questions of you.
This is an outstanding way to get to really know yourself.
Opening up to mindfulness
The practice of mindfulness puts you in the here-and-now. When you are mindful you are aware of your thoughts and feelings in the now.
This moment, the now, is the most real reality that there is. As Albert Einstein said,
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”
What this means is that reality is how you believe it to be. While there is a collective consciousness that gives us common ground to call reality, perception and experience are unique to every single being on the planet.
Humans are the only animals, that we know of, that don’t just live in the now. Part of that is because of the capacity of human beings to build and create fantastical things. So you and I have the ability to use our minds to invent wonders that don’t currently exist.
The point to all of this is that only you can know you. When you know yourself, you have a far greater ability to create and live in a reality that lights you up, makes you happy, and from which you can grow and evolve.
This is not a fairy tale or the notion of an altered state of reality different from this world. You still have this place in which your body physically exists. But your perception of reality, how you experience the time that is your life occupying your body, is entirely unique to you.
Mindfulness is the process of getting your physical self to be more in touch with and attuned to your mental and spiritual self. This, in turn, lets you make choices and decisions about how you think and what and how you feel, and from there intent behind your actions.
Talking to yourself helps communicate this process.
You might get better answers
I have been saying for a long time that one of the reasons I like to talk to myself is that I get better answers that way. While I am often joking when I state this, that doesn’t lessen the truth inherent in it.
I can think all I desire to. Honestly, when are you not thinking? This is a constant state of being. In part, because it’s pretty much impossible to turn your brain off, you may allow your subconscious to take the wheel because you can become overwhelmed with thinky-thoughts.
The problem this causes is that turning the wheel over to the subconscious becomes a habit. When you do that, now wresting control back to your consciousness takes effort. That can be complicated and difficult on many levels.
Why? Because your subconscious will act on things you consciously may not. The subconscious will focus on thoughts and subsequent feelings from those thoughts that you might consciously not choose.
Practicing mindfulness is taking back that control. One way to do that is to get it out of your head. Asking questions and talking it out, to yourself, does exactly that.
What’s more, talking to yourself means the only one who can answer you is you. Why is that a good thing? Because it forces you to examine what you are thinking and feeling. Doing so aloud moves the process from your head, and hearing it instead of just thinking it provides nuance, inflection, and tone that can report the depths of your headspace.
Talking to Yourself isn’t Crazy
You cannot find answers if you don’t ask questions. To really dig into your psyche and your subconscious talking to yourself opens unexpected, but extremely useful pathways.
Neglecting mental health expands outwards. When more people are troubled, uncertain, and letting their subconscious do the driving it impacts the collective consciousness. This takes the world in directions that nobody truly wants to go in. Fear, lack, and scarcity, and general uncertainty vibrate at like low-frequencies, and like attracts like.
Even if you don’t buy into the idea of the Law of Attraction, do you like to feel out-of-control, down, and unhappy? I am going to guess the answer is no. When you find yourself in this state, talking to yourself is a good way to check-in with yourself, get a better idea of your mindset, and if needs be, find new answers to adjust as necessary.
I can think of no better way to check-in with all your thoughts and feelings and overall headspace. Talking to yourself can be a powerful tool to a better you. A better you can be a powerful tool for a better world.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and talking to yourself can help you see that.