That Didn’t Go How I Expected It To

And that’s not a bad thing in this case.

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You can make all sorts of plans for your life. There are innumerable paths you can choose. Yet no matter the path nor the plan, sometimes it doesn’t go how you expected it to.

Sometimes this is not so good. Often, it’s not a bad thing at all.

Perfect example. Recently, I applied for a job as a receptionist. No, not the work I would ideally be doing, but I really needed to find something stable to bring in more funds. And no, I have not given up on being a full-time writer…I just had to consider an alternate income stream.

Anyhow, they called on my resume. But they didn’t want me for the receptionist job. No, they actually read my resume and had something else in mind.

The company owner really wanted to bring on some sort of in-house writer. Someone who would learn and understand the company philosophy and direction. He thought I might be a good fit.

Three weeks have gone by and this is not at all what I expected from that job application.

The unexpected can be amazing

Consciousness creates reality. It really does. My whole focus has been on writing full-time and walking that specific path. Yes, overall I desire to be writing blogs and articles and books of my own. But I have allowed room to write ANYTHING that comes my way.

The Universe is giving me EXACTLY what I desire. I have a freelance gig that leaves me open to my own work. It pays well. My time is flexible. And thus far they are really happy with what I am giving them.

What’s more, this is also making use of several other skills I have been cultivating over the last few years. For example, I have been doing a bunch of work in WordPress for the company. All of my websites are in WordPress, too…so I might have some knowledge here.

Why did I apply for that job? I don’t remember. Something about it caught my eye so I sent in my resume. The Universe saw the effort I was making and I am now getting an unexpected return on investment.

Writing is my passion. It doesn’t seem to matter if the work is entirely along the lines of my personal knowledge-base, or just a chance to craft words on a topic I can learn about. I love to do this, and every hour I have spent on this unexpected job has flown by.

Be open to Possibility

The ultimate lesson here is that you need to always be open to possibility. It’s not just a matter of one door closing and another opening — sometimes what’s on the other side of the door is not entirely what you expected it to be.

To be fair, this can also be a bad thing. More often than not I think that’s how it trends. But when potential is presented to you unexpectedly it’s breathtaking.

Not what I expected from the action I took. But the Universe knew what I truly desired, and put me where I needed to be.

THAT is how letting go and releasing your intention works, by the way. It’s acting with intent without expectation, necessarily. You ask for what you seek and decide that you will find it.

Am I committing revisionist history with this notion? No, I really don’t believe so. I told the Universe what I was seeking for my life, and for my path. Even though I took an action that wasn’t necessarily intended to aid that path, I have still been walking it. It just turned out the potential detour has been the right route for me to take.

Anything is possible. My whole focus has been on earning my living as a writer. So while this is not where I expected this to go, it really shouldn’t be too big a surprise, either. That’s what I have been seeking.

Believe in yourself

When you surrender your desire to the Universe, it can and will give you what you seek. But despite space being a vacuum, the Universe doesn’t work from a pure vacuum, either.

Mindfulness is the source of all manifestation. Conscious reality creation IS mindfulness in action. Thought, feeling, and action are mindfulness, and that’s how you consciously create anything.

When I say the Universe doesn’t work out of a vacuum I am talking about intent. You could say, for example, that you want to be an astronaut. That’s a cool idea. But unless you make choices that work with that intent and will get you there, it won’t just *POOF* happen.

Let’s go smaller. I could desire to be a writer all I want. It might be my ultimate goal to become a bestseller and an influencer. Very cool. Could I become this if I never write a word? Is it likely if I don’t practice the craft and work on improving my skills and abilities with wordsmithing?

That is why you can’t just have expectation in the vacuum. There needs to be thought, feeling, and intentional action. And with that, it is also important for you to believe in yourself.

It’s so easy to see your flaws. Your imperfections. All the ways that you are mistaken. Errors. Foul-ups. And other negatives. But that’s a snapshot of who you are, not the whole picture.

You are amazing. You are worthy and deserving of whatever dreams and goals you pursue in this life. Why? Because you are a good person who seeks to do no harm to others to better yourself and find and/or walk your paths.

You are empowered with the ability to do just about anything you desire. Believe in yourself and that will go a long way.

Reality check

I can’t deny that some pretty awful stuff is happening in the world at large. Spend any time online and you’re going to be inundated with news and information that is pretty upsetting. Multiple really foolish people are doing terrible things and not (yet) facing the consequences of what they’re doing.

If I focus on this stuff, issues way, way outside my control, I’ll lose sight of my life. Frankly, my life is the only thing I can exert any real control, influence, or change over. This is the practice of mindfulness.

You may not have expected something to go the way that it did, and that may have been excellent. Or maybe it wasn’t. But when good things happen, don’t feel guilty in the light of the worldwide issues out there. The single best way that YOU can do anything about the big picture is to make your smaller picture as clear and bright as possible.

The big pictures are made up of smaller aspects. Ergo, your life, as a portion of the big picture of the world, should be as good or great as you desire for it to be. In that way, you can spread positivity and encouragement outwards.

You can make all sorts of plans for your life. There are innumerable paths you can choose. Yet no matter the path nor the plan, sometimes it doesn’t go how you expected it to. Sometimes it goes far better, and you deserve that experience.

Has an experience that wasn’t expected to go a certain way gone better for you?

You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter.

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Originally published at on January 8, 2020.

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I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain.

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