The Perils of Unnecessary Competition

My choices in life are good for me, but probably not for you. Resources considered scarce generally are not, so there is no need to compete.

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As we are not in competition, I would be happy to help you along your path in whatever way I can.

Competition is a fine thing in certain respects. My baseball team versus your team, track stars running for the best time, contestants on Jeopardy!, fencers fighting to best one another, and for that matter most competitive sports.

Competition in your everyday life, for the most part, is unhealthy.

This is not just a straight-up notion, either. You and I become competitive on a number of different issues, in a number of different ways that are disempowering.

Places we should not be in competition

First, there is the obvious. Competing for jobs, competing for food, competing to be classier, richer, and smarter than anyone else. This is the fruit of lack mentality, of the belief that there is not enough of insert-object-x-here for everyone, so we have to struggle to get it for ourselves. I would bet that your social media channels are as clogged with this sort of competition as mine are.

Then there are the somewhat less obvious forms of competition. They got ‘x’, so now I should have ‘x’. I had to struggle to accomplish ‘y’, how come they didn’t have to work half as hard? Why do I get paid two-thirds of what he gets paid for the same work? This is the competition of resentment, of wanting our own slices of the same pie, but seeing the pie as finite rather than infinite.

What it all boils down to is the same issue. You and I live in a society of lack mentality. The people whom we place in positions of power, and the media empires bombarding us with news and information (real or fake), are continuously telling us that we have to get it now before supplies run out! and such.

Then you see this world as being full of limitations, you see that there is not enough of this, that, or the other thing, and you are set-up to struggle to have the things you desire.

Why? Because this disempowers you. If you are disempowered, “they” can control you. Or, at the very least, they can work hard to direct how you think, how you feel, and how you might act as such.

Disempower the people to control the people

Look at how elections go in the United States at the moment. Or for that matter, look at the whole Brexit debacle in England. People in power play on fears, play on the things people are concerned the most about — like jobs and money and security — by telling you how you need to “take back” what already belongs to you, and that if you do not make or unmake these changes or avoid these people you will have even less.

They present you with a tiny pie and claim this is all there is, and there is certainly not enough to go around. Grab it, any way you can, and never mind the consequences. They’ll handle everything for you.

How incredibly disempowering is that? And yet a stunning number of people believe it to be true. There just is not enough, we’re all in competition, get out of my way because I WILL get what is mine before you can take it from me!

This is not the truth. This is the lie that could unravel our entire society if we let it. You compete where competition is unnecessary, because you allow yourself to be disempowered, and believe that this is a universe of lack, insufficiency, and exclusion.

The truth is very much the opposite of this. You live in a universe of more-than-enough, a world of abundance, and you have the power to receive whatever you desire. But you have to start empowering yourself, and you need to recognize that this is not a competition.

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You have all the power

Your conscious reality creation varies from mine because you are experiencing this life differently from how I am. You desire to do things that I do not desire to do. You find fun where I don’t. You may hold any number of beliefs that vary from mine. That is ok.

The universe is full to bursting with abundance. Any lack or deficiency is your own making. You are not in competition to outdo me, nor I, you. We can have all the wealth, love, happiness and even power that we might desire.

To get it, you have to empower yourself.

What do you desire from your life? What makes you happy? What makes you feel full? From the spiritual to the physical, the intangible to the tangible, you have different needs and desires from anyone else, and there is no need to compete for them. In an abundant universe, they are already out there, waiting for you to take hold of them.

How? By taking back your own empowerment. You have to stop going with the masses, stop allowing a very small few tell you how it is or how it should be, and you need to consider what you desire and how you might achieve it.

Instead of searching without for the things that will make you feel safe, secure, and happy, you need to turn within.

Look inside yourself to see where you may be competing

Recognize that each and every one of us has the power to create the world as we most desire it to be and that doing so does not need to deny anyone else their desires and needs.

Look at the things you think about and talk about during the day. How often are you focused on the concerns of others instead of your own? How often do you give away your empowerment to another, to an issue outside of yourself, to concerns and fears and anger? Are you focusing on things that you can take control of to better your own life, or are you focusing on things you can really do little to nothing about?

Be your own empowerer. Don’t be concerned so much with the choices of others, and focus instead on your own. This is how you can change the course of society, by working from within instead of trying to force change from without.

We are not in competition…unless you care to duel in the fencing lists against me. Otherwise, you can strive for your hearts’ desires without having to compete with me or anyone else to get them.

Are you focused on your own reality or the realities of others?

You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and are not in competition with anyone.

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I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain. http://www.mjblehart.com

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