There are a lot of things inside my head.
Much of the data I have absorbed over the years is useless. I mean, in a trivia game I know a lot of facts about things that do not serve me otherwise.
In addition to information overload, there are numerous ideas, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings buried deep inside my subconscious mind. Many were formed in my youth based on my environment and experiences.
Still, unchecked, they have a serious impact on my actions of today and work in conscious reality creation. To build up my life in the way I desire it to be, I have a lot of old, outdated data to remove and replace.
But deeper than that, a lot of that data is part of my “operating system.” Human 4.7 gets an annual upgrade — but that doesn’t change, remove, or replace the old operating parameters.
To understand this, and to do anything with and about it, you have to go into your own mindset/headspace/psyche. Dig around inside your subconscious mind to locate and identify outdated and non-useful beliefs, patterns, and habits. Then — determine how to remove and replace them.
BUT — because this isn’t challenging enough in-and-of-itself — you need to be present and not get too much in your head.
What does that even mean?
It is easy to go with habits and patterns throughout your day. Often, routine carries you from waking to action to sleeping to waking to action to sleeping over multiple days. A great many 9–5 jobs can lead you in this manner.
When you practice mindfulness, you are practicing being aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. More specifically, aware of them in the here-and-now, in the present. Being conscious opens you to more control and better choices in all your interactions.
Now, when you start this process actively, you are bound to identify deep-rooted beliefs and habits that no longer serve you. To do something with them, you need to make a conscious effort to dig them out.
That, however, can lead to an unexpected place.
Join me inside MY head
For example, I have a repetitive voice in my head telling me that I am fat, out of shape, and that I need to fix it. My weight and body mass are a constant source of strife inside of myself. If I do not exercise sufficiently or eat mindfully, the voice tells me, well duh. This is what you are. You are fat and out-of-shape and suck at fixing it.
I need to dig out that voice, remove it, and tell myself a new story. It is up to me to consciously change the story to one I desire. I am taking care of myself, getting into shape, and working every day to improve my body mass and weight.
However, in the process of identifying the annoying voice, deeper examination brings up past failures. Once you got down under 200 pounds — how come you are the heaviest you have ever been now?
That, in turn, opens me to an examination of other failings. I am always writing about conscious reality creation — but what do I know? If I was any good at it, I’d be better off financially, in better shape, and stronger/wiser/better etcetera, etcetera.
Before I know it, I feel down, defeated, and worthless. Then, because this isn’t nearly enough fun, I question everything and get farther away from a place of mindfulness.
That is an example of getting ultimately too much inside your head.
How do you not do this?
As I took a walk this morning — specifically to clear my head — I asked myself that question. How do I stop self-sabotaging? What can I do to analyze and identify the old beliefs that have gotten me where I am now? When I do that, how do I change them without getting too much inside my head and repeating the above cycle?
As with most things in life, this comes down to a matter of balance. Go inside my head — but not without a tether to the here-and-now. Stay present, because losing myself in my head will simply continue to build on the existing beliefs, habits, and patterns I am seeking to break and change.
Here is how I intend to work on this.
Step one: Practice mindfulness.
Before digging into my head to identify and remove old data, I need to be conscious right now. What am I thinking? How and what am I feeling? What am I doing and what’s the intent behind my actions?
By practicing mindfulness, I create the base from which I can climb into the tunnel that leads into my psyche. Mindfulness is building a scaffolding where a safety tether can be attached in the first place.
Step two: Choose one belief/habit.
There are a LOT of things inside my head that I have no use for — apart from the trivia. Old beliefs that have created habits that do not serve me or better my life.
While it’s tempting to go after several of these, doing so is an excellent way to wind up too much inside your head. So choose one belief/habit to work on at a time.
This can be frustrating because our instant gratification quick-fix society dictates more and faster action. But when you are striving to change an old belief/habit/practice, being meticulous will result in a more complete transformation.
Step three: Dig for the root.
This can be a challenge because the surface matter often appears to be the total matter. But it seldom is.
I am currently the heaviest I have ever been. As mentioned above, the voice in my head says I am fat, out of shape, and that I need to fix it. The primary thought swimming around in my head is I am fat.
This belief goes deeper. I have always been fat is the next level down. Dig further, and I come to My family has weight problems. Where did that come from? Well, my mom is always on a diet. “I have to lose ten pounds before I do ‘x’” was a frequent dialogue I heard growing up and still hear from here today.
I was teased for being a chubby kid. Food was a comfort when I was down — and I probably became clinically depressed after my parents’ divorce when I was 6.
Nearly all my life I have believed that struggling with my weight was a lifelong issue. Which gets me to the deep-set belief.
I will always be struggling with my weight because that’s how it works. I will always have weight to take off and never manage to reach equilibrium with it.
That’s an interesting find. Now what?
Step four: Replace it.
This is where affirmations, mantras, and conscious self-talk enters into it.
Changing that voice in my head requires me, in the here-and-now, to alter my self-talk. I have to be conscious of that voice and quiet it down. But since it can’t be silenced, I need instead to overcome it with a new belief.
Here’s an important note. I can’t replace I am fat with I am thin. Why? Because I know that’s a lie. All I gotta do is look in the mirror. In thi
This is a tangible. With intangibles, you can create the opposite even when it’s untrue because ALL of it is immaterial. I am worthless can be replaced with I am worthwhile because it’s pure thought and feeling — thus intangible.
My body size and shape is a tangible thing. That means changing the voice in my head to I am thin is a lie.
What can I change it to? It may be best to go after the root cause. I need a new affirmation to replace I will always be struggling with my weight because that’s how it works. I will always have weight to take off and never manage to reach equilibrium with it.
Let’s try this: I can get control over my weight. I am getting into shape, eating better, and exercising more to reach equilibrium.
There needs to be, in addition to this affirmation, a single phrase to replace I am fat. I need to override that statement with something better. What can I say to myself that doesn’t feel like a lie?
I am getting into shape. It’s vague enough that it is believable — and open enough that it could be interpreted in many ways.
Step five: Repeat often
This is another aspect of practicing mindfulness. By creating this affirmation and a new statement to replace a long-held belief and alter my self-talk, it needs repetition.
To plant a new belief and create a new habit — especially after four decades of roots — this needs to be repeated over and over.
How? I need to print out my affirmation and place it where I can read it frequently. Then, I need to consciously choose to do so. Multiple times a day I need to pause, read my affirmations and soak them into my psyche so they can take-up root.
Accountability for getting outside my head
The steps have been established. I know what I need to do.
The key is in actually doing it.
Here is my plan. Today is the last day of June. Today, I begin using the new affirmation — I can get control over my weight. I am getting into shape, eating better, and exercising more to reach equilibrium. I am reading this aloud multiple times a day.
Additionally, I am replacing I am fat with I am getting into shape as my self-talk.
This will be an ongoing effort, but I intend to check back in with you in 15 days. Then, again, at the end of July. I desire to prove that I can get out of being too much inside my head — and if I can do it, so can you.
Consciousness creates reality. To better my reality and create a healthier me, this is the best way I can think of to make this happen. Thank you for coming aboard and joining me on this new journey.
Know that you are worthy and deserving of using mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done our thoughts, feelings, and actions matter, as does getting out of our heads and changing our beliefs and habits.