Since this is an election year it is very hard to not talk about politics. One of the uglier parts of this, however, is when those more-or-less on the same side become combative.
I am not going to get into a whole diatribe about the current crop of presidential candidates, and since I live in a state that doesn’t have a primary until June there is little to nothing I can do but watch. Which, frankly, I am not doing — because there is no point in getting upset/frustrated/invested in something I have ZERO control over.
I know which candidates I prefer, and hope that I still get a real choice in the process come June.
Until then, let’s talk about a bigger issue. Fighting amongst ourselves.
Look, there is never going to be ONE PERFECT CANDIDATE. You might find someone who represents more-or-less what YOU want, but others may disagree for any number of reasons. It’s good and healthy to debate and have discussion (sans rancor) of the good/bad/ugly positives and negatives of each candidate.
But it’s important to stay civil. You really should be mindful of agreeing to disagree. Why? Because when the convention occurs and there is just the one nominee standing against Trump we need to come together in support of whoever takes him on.
We’re all on the same side here
If you are a Trump supporter I am intrigued that you may still be reading this. But that’s neither here nor there.
Anyone is going to be better than Trump at this point. I think either of my cats would be a better choice, for example. So when all the debates and primaries are done we need to come together, agree to disagree and support whoever we have.
This instance is specific to the election. When all is said and done we are allies and we need to work together in order to achieve the goal. We’re not likely to get the absolute ideal candidate for president since the ideal is wholly dependent on individual perception. But whoever we have is who we need to all get behind, warts and all.
Let’s move past this and get into other areas where we need to consider agreeing to disagree because, in the end, we’re still allies.
I am not like you. You are not like me. Our life experiences, environments, families, communities, educations, associations and so on are unique to each of us. While there may be similarities, we are still different from one another.
This is an important matter to take into account. Why? Because even when you and I are different we can still be allies in certain fights. But there may be imperfections involved.
I am a cis-gendered straight white middle-aged male. So I have no direct knowledge of what it is like to be a person of color, a woman, LGBTQ, or otherwise marginalized.
However, that doesn’t mean I cannot be an ally. I am. While my experiences are going to be different because I haven’t had the same issues, that doesn’t make me any less of an ally.
I think it’s really important to be mindful of this. Look, you already have enough people who are against equal rights for anyone who is “different” or a “minority” or whatever. Even with any and all of our imperfections and dissimilar experiences — we are still on your side. Allies stand with you.
One size seldom fits all
Each of the two major political parties in the United States have blanket platforms that outline their policies. Yet how many people subscribe to the whole of these platforms? I suspect the answer is very few.
One size does not fit all. There are aspects of a given candidate’s beliefs you may not buy into. This is also going to be true of allies in most battles and wars you may be fighting.
I am not saying you should ever just roll over and accept awfulness. That’s not what this is about. This is about accepting the differences belonging to individuals, the way each of us thinks, feels, and acts, and the importance of an ally versus an opponent.
In certain fights, some of your allies ascribe to one thing but not to another you may feel passionate about. Is it worth tossing over their support because of the imperfection inherent in it? Odds are the answer is no.
This can be infuriating. In a perfect world, we’d be in total agreement about a given topic. But that’s why perfection is unrealistic and, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder.
We can agree to disagree, particularly when it comes to our allies. What’s important is that we come together to deal with the much larger issue of our opponents, accept our differences, and work together to achieve the goal.
Keep that in mind, please, before you go off on an imperfect ally. Save your combat for your opponents.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, even when we agree to disagree as allies.