We Need Negativity, Too

As much as we need more positivity in the world today, negativity is also a necessity.

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Negativity is a necessity.

There are always two sides to the coin. Light and dark, short and tall, up and down, positive and negative. Because the Universe is all about balance, both are necessary.

The reason we need more positivity in the world today is because we are out of balance. Negativity dominates us. We may not desire to see it that way, but that doesn’t make it any less true. All you have to do is watch the news, scroll through Facebook, or browse any other part of social media, and you will be absolutely bombarded with negativity.

The thing of it is, we cannot rid ourselves of negativity. Why? Because we need it. Without negativity we would not know positivity. One coin, two sides.

Feeling negative is an emotion we can use to spur us to action. We can take that bad feeling and employ it to create something better to replace it.

Trouble is, we are losing sight of how to do that.

Negativity can be blinding

People get opinionated about things. Some opinions are based in fact, while others are based in wild speculation. The trouble with opinions is that they can become, as far as the person holding them is concerned, fact. When this happens, they dig in, and hold their ground, no matter what you toss in their direction to sway them otherwise.

From this we have reached a point where we tend to meet negative with negative. This seldom does any good, because instead of creating something new and better, we are tossing out something old and similar. This does nothing to change the conversation, let alone change opinions.

What’s that got to do with negativity? You are probably familiar with the phrase “don’t read the comments.” Why do we use that? Because people will spew anger, negativity, hatred, unsustainable ideals, and other unpleasantries the semi-anonymity of the online world breeds. Kindness and empathy go out the window online, since you have only words, and people feel the lack of physical presence online allows them to be less human.

Negativity meets negativity, and people blindly spew out more. Thus, we get further out of balance. Because of the inherent immediacy of the internet we can be easily overwhelmed with all of this.

While we cannot control anyone or anything else, we CAN control ourselves. In especial, we have total control over our thoughts, feelings, and actions. What this comes out to mean is that, when all is said and done, we choose whether to hold onto and spread negativity…or release it.

Unfortunately, it is so easy to get caught up in a negative spiral, we can be blinded to its impact on us. Then we wonder why we feel depressed, anxious, and generally discontent.

Negativity cannot be ignored or disregarded

It is important to recognize that we need more positivity in our world. However, negativity still has its place. Without negativity, we would not have knowledge of things we dislike. We’d be incapable of recognizing people, places, things and situations that we do not resonate with.

More to the point, we’d not know what drives us without negativity.

Some people believe that creativity is born of chaos and destruction. Others see it born of order and development. Again, one coin, two sides. Everyone has preferences, prejudices, likes and dislikes. For all of our sameness, our individuality colors our perception of the world.

But without negativity, we’d know none of this.

Without things that make us feel negative, we’d not seek out positive. It can be a force that drives us to make change. Ideally, we choose to take the negative feeling and let it spur is into action. We seek to remove ourselves from negative situations and create positive ones.

This, however, is where the imbalance comes into play. Because negativity seems so prevalent, we may find ourselves succumbing to it. When your friend posts that angry rant on Twitter, it’s easy to respond with “Yeah” or “No” and do nothing about it. The anger and negativity grows, feeding the imbalance further.

This is part of why we need to acknowledge the negativity in whatever form it takes…but then release it.

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Holding negativity helps nobody

Each and every one of us has control over our own thoughts, feelings, and actions. Yes, outside influences will impact your thoughts and feelings, but then you get to choose what to do from there. Hold onto the thoughts and feelings that do not serve you — or release them?

Yes, we need to know negativity. But we do not need to hold onto it. More than that, we need to let it go in order to make room for building positivity.

You may be wondering, won’t too much positivity ALSO put things out of balance? Short answer — no. Long answer — negative things happen. We get dumped, fired, yelled at, and unfriended by other people. We break bones, get sick, feel too hot or too cold all on our own. Negative things will ALWAYS be there. They will always happen. Because this is part of the nature of the Universe and the human experience, we need to counter the negativity with positivity.

The most unique things about human beings, compared to the rest of the animal kingdom, is our ability to think beyond food, shelter and basic survival. As such, most of what we deem positive or negative is an artifice of our own creation. This is why we can have the exact same experiences, but utterly opposite reactions to them.

How do we regain balance?

Yes, we need to recognize that we need negativity. From there, we need to recognize if we are holding onto it, or releasing it. Are we using it to drive us to make changes, or building onto the negativity? When we can see how we interact with the negative, we can see that we are out of balance, and make necessary changes.

Mindfulness and awareness of ourselves is the key. Asking what you are thinking, what and how you are feeling, and taking actions from there will let you find balance. You get to decide and choose whether to continue to allow the dominance of negativity — or seek positivity, and make changes.

The choice is up to you my friends. Choose wisely.

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I am a practitioner of mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to inspire, open minds, & entertain. http://www.mjblehart.com

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