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Well-Meaning Doesn’t Equal Welcome
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Do you have well-meaning people in your life? Friends, family, coworkers, people who say things to you that they intend to be helpful but, frankly, aren’t?
I do. While I know they are telling me what they do out of a genuine, good intent, they’re often missing the point and having the opposite effect.
My life is mine to live. To many people, that’s the ultimate selfish statement. Yet it’s the unabashed truth. That’s because there is nobody other than me in my head, heart, or soul.
Guess what? This is also the truth for you. You are the only one in your head, heart, and soul. Even when you love someone and allow them in, they are not, in truth, in your head, heart, or soul. At least not beyond your perception of that.
Well-meaning people often do and say things with what they believe is your best interest at heart. Unfortunately, since they are not and cannot be you, they miss the mark at best and cause you distress at worst.
What’s more, they often share — or spew on the regular — their well-meaning ideas in a way that’s not welcome.
What am I going on about?
A certain well-meaning person in my life loves to tell me how they came across an article…
