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What Do You Do When You Don’t Believe in Yourself?
Ah, the tangled webs the brain weasels weave…
My wife and I were having a conversation the other day, talking about another conversation that I’d had with a third party. The conversation ended thus:
Me to her, “Thank you for being the only one who believes in me. I’m glad somebody does.”
Her to me, “Since you don’t believe in yourself?”
Me to her, “Hence why I said what I said.”
This has been an ongoing matter for most of my life. To add insult to injury, it’s been exacerbated by various people who damn with faint praise, offer conditional love, and fuel the brain weasels telling me I’m wrong/overly idealistic/foolish/unworthy and so on. This gets especially challenging when you’re fighting a deep-seated fear of abandonment.
All of this, however, is my problem, and I can lament it and let it define me.
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I can meditate on it, talk to my therapist about it, practice mindfulness, and share with you in my blogs. Because I know I’m not alone with this issue.
What do you do when you don’t believe in yourself? Let’s talk about that.
