I read a lot of blogs and articles by a lot of different self-help and inspirational writers. I have read or listened to a vast number of books on the topics of self-help, inspiration, self-improvement, conscious reality creation and manifestation, mindfulness, and finding/creating wealth.
Along the way, I have developed my own philosophy on this topic and call it Pathwalking. Finding, choosing, and traveling my own path in life and making my own destiny is the whole notion of my life philosophy.
No two people have exactly the same path in mind. What you seek is not the same as what I seek — but the underlying premise is pretty much the same.
Ultimately, you desire to do something with your life that makes you feel satisfied.
This may not necessarily be an all-the-time thing. Let’s face it — is ANYONE happy all the time? I’m rather certain the answer is no.
But to be satisfied overall, and more often in a positive rather than a negative headspace — that’s both possible and worthwhile.
A lot of this, however, comes down to really, truly knowing what you want. What do you really want?
(“I’ll tell you what I want what I really really “ …sorry, couldn’t help myself).
For a long time, I had a pretty vague idea of just what it was I desired. What I wanted was far more of an abstract concept than practice.
A little vague is a good thing, but too much is problematic
When it comes to conscious reality creation and choosing the life you most desire to have, it’s important to have detail. How does it look? What is its shape? How does it feel? These are questions that need answers to be made manifest.
When you have nothing but an unclear, vague idea of where you want to go, guess what you will create? A vague, unclear reality. You will have some of what you seek, but not a fully satisfying resolution.
However, on the other side of this coin, too much detail and a precise focus can have the same impact. Why? Because the Universe is capable of heeding your commands and providing what you work to create. But, the how of it can be unexpected, mysterious, and can produce an end result not precisely as you would design it.
Important truth: If you knew how to get where it is you are desiring to go — that you have not already been — if you knew how you’d have done it already. But you don’t know how — so why make it so laser-focused?
Discoveries along the way may alter the outcome. They may also produce other bits that were unexpected but are pretty awesome.
The journey can be as wondrous as the outcome
My wife and I love to play Diablo III on our Xbox. Most of the time, though we have a specific quest to achieve, we take our time. We seek out and destroy all the monsters between where we are and where we are going.
Further, we take side quests. Go into the Cave of Mystery or Keep of Abominations or what-have-you. It takes longer to complete the quest — but we get cool armor and weapons, as well as experience and gold.
It also prolongs how much time we spend together playing the game.
When you reach a certain level the end bad guy becomes somewhat anticlimactic. You are going to overwhelm the monster no matter what. But the side quests and journey themselves can be a lot of fun.
This is true in every aspect of life. The journey is the everyday. And you never know what today will bring you.
Yes, we are currently living in unusual and uncertain times — but that just means that every individual day is that much more important. The end of this situation is nowhere to be seen just yet — and focusing on that can be disconcerting.
So why not work with the now instead?
It is possible, working on the day-to-day, that you will see that what you really want is not what you thought it was.
Be mindful of false advertising
If you buy into the modern American notion of success, what do you think that means you should have?
Generally, it looks something like this:
- You have a large and impressive home
- Your spouse is stunningly attractive
- The car you drive is expensive and probably impractical
- You have cash to burn and time to spare
- Only the finest things will do: clothing, food and drink, luxury items, big and bold parties and so on
- You must show off, be impressive, and want for nothing.
Does that seem even a little realistic? I’m pretty it’s not — it’s false advertising.
Not long ago I got a new car. It has all the features I have ever desired in a car. Fantastic fuel economy, leather seats, moonroof, fun to drive, and plenty of room for all my gear.
It is a standard, mid-level Japanese hatchback. Even if I could have afforded a much fancier car — like a high-end Japanese or German model — I wouldn’t have. This is all the car I want and need. My car is perfect (for me) and I love it.
Do I need a big house? Of course not, my wife and I have no kids and aren’t having any. The apartment we call home is perfect for us.
Yes, more money couldn’t hurt — but neither are we struggling. Life is, frankly, pretty damned good.
Yes, I still am after more from my life. But it’s not things or necessarily success. It’s satisfaction. It is the freedom to be the best me that I can be.
Let me share what I really want to do/be
What do I really want? I desire to make a living as a fiction writer (insert shameless self-promotion here! My new sci-fi novel — The Void Incursion — Book One — Opening Gambit — for Kindle pre-order and available for purchase May 8). I desire to take Pathwalking further and help other people walk THEIR paths in life.
I believe that this will satisfy me. It is, I feel, that which I am here in this life to do. That is what I, at least, really want for myself.
Satisfaction should never be complete and total
Finally, this is important: Even when you get all that you might want — you can and should still desire more (not literally more — just some continued need for learning/doing more).
Why? Because that is how you grow. What else you desire is likely going to be different in many ways from anything you wanted before. But that’s part of life. You are always growing, learning, and changing.
Change is inevitable. That’s why what you wanted in your 20’s is generally not what you want in your 40’s. You have changed. As such, your tastes and desires have changed, too.
This can be disconcerting, and it can feel selfish. But it’s normal, and you are empowered with the ability to use mindfulness to choose your way.
You are worthy and deserving of being the best you that you can be. Take the time to figure out what you really want for your life. Then do what you can to find, choose, and/or create the necessary path so that you can get there.
Be mindful. Think, feel, and act in your best interest. Choose the best path for you.
Do you know what you really want?
You are worthy and deserving of using mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter as does what you really want.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on April 8, 2020.