For all the work I’ve done over the years to not let the opinions, ideas, and perceptions of others matter that much to me — I still care too much about it.
As such, often I am concerned in the back of my subconscious about the impression I make on people. How does what I do impact them?
Here’s the problem — I know I have ZERO control over this. None whatsoever. Being concerned with it doesn’t do me any good. In fact, it lessens my personal growth and development.
Then — as if that wasn’t enough — it makes me feel bad, gets me upset and depressed, as well as distracted from what I can control and what does matter.
This is something that I think has been one of the major ways I self-sabotage. Subconsciously, to avoid making a poor or bad impression, I act disingenuously towards myself and against my best interests.
This is what I need to figure out: How do I not give a sh*t anymore?
However — that’s an unkind statement. And not giving a sh*t can get turned inwards — which doesn’t do me much good, either.
Thus, my quest. What is a kinder, more positive, more compassionate, and gentler way to not give a sh*t?
What’s the reason for kindness and compassion?
I don’t know about you — but I dislike when people are unkind and uncompassionate.
Kindness and compassion are always two-way streets. You receive just as much from giving them as you do from getting them. Being kind and compassionate is not a sign of weakness nor any other negative sometimes given to them. They are desired, expected, and often preferred by all.
How do you feel when someone treats you like sh*t? Do you like it if — through no fault of your own — you’re running late and get zero compassion for that situation? What about when someone slams a door in your face, ignores you for no good reason, or is otherwise unkind and uncompassionate?