What’s a Kinder, More Compassionate Way to Not Give a Sh*t?

The answer to how not to give a sh*t more kindly is the theme for my 2022.

Murray "MJ" Blehart
6 min readJan 3, 2022

For all the work I’ve done over the years to not let the opinions, ideas, and perceptions of others matter that much to me — I still care too much about it.

As such, often I am concerned in the back of my subconscious about the impression I make on people. How does what I do impact them?

Here’s the problem — I know I have ZERO control over this. None whatsoever. Being concerned with it doesn’t do me any good. In fact, it lessens my personal growth and development.

Then — as if that wasn’t enough — it makes me feel bad, gets me upset and depressed, as well as distracted from what I can control and what does matter.

This is something that I think has been one of the major ways I self-sabotage. Subconsciously, to avoid making a poor or bad impression, I act disingenuously towards myself and against my best interests.

This is what I need to figure out: How do I not give a sh*t anymore?

However — that’s an unkind statement. And not giving a sh*t can get turned inwards — which doesn’t do me much good, either.

Thus, my quest. What is a kinder, more positive, more compassionate, and gentler way to not give a sh*t?

What’s the reason for kindness and compassion?

I don’t know about you — but I dislike when people are unkind and uncompassionate.

Kindness and compassion are always two-way streets. You receive just as much from giving them as you do from getting them. Being kind and compassionate is not a sign of weakness nor any other negative sometimes given to them. They are desired, expected, and often preferred by all.

How do you feel when someone treats you like sh*t? Do you like it if — through no fault of your own — you’re running late and get zero compassion for that situation? What about when someone slams a door in your face, ignores you for no good reason, or is otherwise unkind and uncompassionate?

Murray "MJ" Blehart

I explore mindfulness, positivity, philosophy, & conscious reality creation. I love to help & inspire. And I also write sci-fi/fantasy. http://www.mjblehart.com