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What’s More Powerful — Compliments or Criticism?
The answer is much simpler than most tend to make it.
When you do something — doesn’t matter what it is — how do you prefer it be received? Would you rather be complimented for it — or criticized?
I’m going to presume your answer is the same as mine: complimented.
How does it seem to be so easy for people to forget this?
Why do I say people forget this? Because I think if more people paused to think about — and what they’d prefer — they’d be a lot less critical than they are.
Then, maybe, since they likely prefer to get complimented — perhaps they will give more compliments.
Is it really that simple?
Search your thoughts, feelings, and intentions
Do you like to feel put upon? Judged? Shamed? Berated? Belittled? Do you like being dressed down, unfairly compared to others, and treated like a screw-up?
Again, I’m going to hazard a guess here and say no. No, you don’t like/want/desire/prefer any of the above.
Read the comments on virtually any post on social media and you’ll see criticism, judgment, and shame. People shoot things down, rob you of joy, lessen victories, and…
