People always want things to be a certain way.
You get from point ‘a’ to point ‘b’ — and then you want stability and certainty. Sometimes, for a while, you get them.
How long you get them is variable. It depends on what the thing is, environmental factors, other people, and even how you and your needs shift over time.
Then, stability is gone. You have uncertainty, are faced with change, and really wish it wasn’t going to occur.
In many respects, though, change is a good and necessary thing. It means that progress happens and that the greater good is better served.
Sorry to generalize — but — overall, conservatives that I have encountered seem to utterly fear progress. For some reason, everything progressive is bad to them.
Now they are thoroughly tied to anti-science, counterfactualism, and often resorting to name-calling against those who are progressive. Libtards? Liberal snowflakes? Surely, you have encountered these in some form or another.
They are so afraid of progress that they dig in their heels and stand their ground against all logic and reason. What’s more, they have let go of all sense of accountability and respect. There is little to no kindness I have ever seen from anyone claiming to be a conservative.
What’s more, like the Sith, they seem to prefer to deal in absolutes.
Absolutes are not the only way
Not so long ago, it was possible to politically hold mixed views. You could be a social liberal and fiscally conservative and vote for someone in the middle.
Nope, gone are they moderates, leaving us with nobody on the line between right and left, liberal and conservative, or the like. While among the left there is still stratification from the line towards the extreme, on the right it’s become all-or-nothing. You’re absolutely one with the party — or you’re removed.
How do people so blindly follow a leader who lies all the time, makes up facts, eschews science, and insults huge swaths of the human race? The all-or-nothing mentality. This is the way — and you follow or die.
One could argue that the inconsistency on the other side is problematic. And while it can be — because of a range of ideas — the range of ideas is more consistent with reality.
Progress happens, whether you like it or not. Sometimes it’s super-super slow. It crawls along with almost no perceptible speed. Other times, it’s nearly instantaneous.
Those who fear change — most conservatives I have encountered — seem to fear that they will be left behind. Most of this is built on a false narrative of lack and scarcity.
Conservative leaders believe in a limited pie. There is not enough to go around, so we have to protect what we have. But in most instances, this is complete bullshit.
Lack and scarcity are artificial
Pretty much everything that people think is lacking, scarce, or otherwise insufficient is not. By and large, there is far more abundance than lack in the world.
Take energy. Sure, in time we will exhaust the fossil fuels. However, there are alternatives to these already in existence.
Jobs? Certain types of jobs are surely lacking — but — there will always be options. One of the biggest problems exposed by the coronavirus has been an unsustainable work structure. The solutions to it are there — but that is a huge, progressive change that scares the hell out of conservatives.
Because of an inherent fear of change, those “in power” love to provide a narrative to keep everyone else in line. The idea that only so many can become entrepreneurs or management and everyone else is an expendable drone falls right into this.
What if, in reality, people were much more capable of making their own way? Well, they are. But because the system in place has a hundred years or so of stability, most believe that it is the one and only way.
There is not enough, we will run out, and — conservatives with push — the “other” is going to take your share of the limited pie. You will be left hungry with nothing to show because the “other” is going to deny it from you.
Thus, instead, the peddle denying the limited pie to the perceived “other.”
But this is utterly and totally artificial.
There has ALWAYS been and always will be an “other”
The ultimate false narrative is the idea of a One True Way. For example — white supremacy. This is based on a lie that, somehow, white people are better than anyone not white.
News flash — this is bullshit. To be sure, white people have run a disproportionate swath of the world for centuries. However, they are not in any way “superior” nor smarter, more powerful, or anything else. They just had and have more money.
Guess what? That money has gone from representative physical presence to utter invention. Money has no standard behind it — it just IS, and that’s accepted as currency. It doesn’t lack at all — but they want us to think it does.
But by creating and emphasizing the danger of the “other,” those in power scare the masses into following them.
Let’s face it — Trump’s repetitive use of the phrase “fake news” has had an impact. Reliable news sources — which have always been and still are flawed — have been called into question far more now than ever before.
Yet the most conservative outlet of “news” that’s not considered “fake” often is. They’ve been caught more than once making shit up and changing the narrative from any sense of impartiality to meet their message.
And the masses eat it up because it confirms that those things about the “other” they believe are clearly true. Those thugs are awful.
How do we progress with less resistance from conservatives?
For the most part, they are fighting an uphill, losing battle. Slavery ended, segregation ended, women got the right to vote, homosexuals got the right to marry, and everything else once considered progressive has happened.
Yes, they can and will slow it down. They will impede it, and potentially turn it ugly. But they can’t stop it. The tide is coming in and they will be swept up in it whether they like it or not.
This wouldn’t be a big deal if they were more willing to accept differences of opinion and approach. They’ll argue that progressives don’t — except, the proof is in the pudding, so to speak. Progressives recognize the need for change and that things shift. Conservatives fear change and shifting things.
The only way to move forward and lessen the resistance of the conservatives is to ignore them. Not disregard them, not pretend they are not there — but ignore their constant rants. Persuade advertisers to abandon Fox News, for example, and we can and should support the alternatives.
When we can, let’s also kill ’em with kindness. A huge amount of the current conservative narrative is blatantly unkind and unempathetic. You can give that right back and resort to the same name-calling — or take the high road and be polite.
Again, I am not saying to just let them go and ignore them — I am saying to see their side and offer a counter and alternative. Let’s try to show them that they are not going to be left behind when all is said and done.
But neither will they or can they remain where they are.
This is not a solution
You may have expected that I would conclude this with a solution. Well, truth be told, I haven’t got one. In truth, that’s because nobody has one.
More than seven-and-a-half billion people live on this planet. That’s 7.5 billion-plus perceptions of reality. They meet at a collective consciousness — but it, too, is wildly variable.
When you can see and acknowledge this for its truth — you might be more readily able to handle and accept change. Conservatives, as far as I can tell, can’t.
I know this is imperfect. That’s because everyone has a different issue. All you can do is to be the best you that you can be, and make use of kindness, empathy, and caring to do what you can for progress and making the world a better place.
If you are a conservative — progress is not destroying your way of life. But it will, inevitably, change because change is a universal constant.
Ask yourself — what are you REALLY afraid of?
Know that you are worthy and deserving of using mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done our thoughts, feelings, and actions matter, as do the choices we make and stands we take.