Some are emotional. I know people who feel certain ways about certain things that I simply cannot fathom for myself. No judgments, this is just a statement of fact.
Some are a matter of logic. Some judgment here, given notions like flat-earthers, racists, anti-vaxers, misogynists, Trump supporters, and the like. I just don’t understand how logic and reason can go out the window for easily disproven beliefs.
For a long time, I have said that life is about learning new things. There is always something new to be learned, and mysteries to understand. Things happen that need to be explored, good and bad, in order to be dealt with, understood, and in some instances prevented from recurring.
Despite this, there are things that I know I just won’t understand. I can apply all the emotion, logic, and reason I know, and it still won’t make any sense to me.
Yet because of my empathic nature, I not only want to understand it but in some cases, I want to fix it.
Do you think the earth is flat? Let me show you all the reasons why this is untrue. Do you believe that women are somehow inferior to men? I want to help you to see how this is not the case. Think trickle-down economics will work? Allow me to find you the forty-plus years-worth of evidence that this is not so.
Because I don’t understand how people believe these things, I want to help them understand that they need to open themselves up to more reason and logic. Unfortunately, a closed mind cannot be dissuaded, forced open, or changed — not without a desire for change.
When I don’t understand and want to fix that, I have to recognize that I can’t fix anyone — save myself.
Why don’t you understand?
Asking this question can only impact one single person. Me. I am the only one who can answer this. Why? Because the only person who’s mind I can actually change is my own. It’s imperative that I recognize that when I don’t understand someone or something else, I cannot change THEM, I can only change me.
I’m going to get really personal here a moment. My wife’s family has a wholly different dynamic from my own. It is so different, in fact, that in many respects it feels actually alien to me. The way they care for one another, how they react to a crisis, and how they relate to one another frequently makes no sense to me.
I try to understand this. The hows and whys of their dynamic are completely different from anything I have experienced with my own family and our dynamic.
Don’t misunderstand me, I love my in-laws. Because my own family has a whole lot of different dynamics on all these levels, the way they are is wildly different from what I already know.
Understanding grows from experience
The thing to realize is that I simply won’t ever fully understand some things. That’s the nature of the world. There are over seven billion people on this planet, speaking hundreds of different languages, coming from countless family dynamics, each with unique knowledge, experience, and their own understandings.
When you recognize this, you can do better with knowing what you understand. Why? Because you learn that there are things you just won’t ever understand. Further, recognizing that you can’t necessarily make someone else understand what you do, you have more to work with.
You are unique from me as I am from you. Your experiences, environment, choices, and decisions may be similar to my own, but they are not the same. That’s ok, though, because it’s actually a wonderful thing to not fully understand.
Why? Because that is how you grow, change, and evolve. Through working on learning new understandings you develop and build your life experience.
My desires are unique from yours
As I work on consciously creating my life as I desire to manifest it, it occurs to me that the number of worlds I visualize for my own life are pretty numerous. Some of the worlds, those of my own creation, I completely understand. Some worlds, in particular, such as those I share with other people like you, I will probably never fully get.
One of the most important things to recognize about this notion is that we all understand different things in different ways. You cannot force anyone else to understand what you do. Even when you are dealing with logical and reasonable matters. Your differences will color what you define as logic and reason.
Besides, even when you and I do not understand one another, it need not be a source of conflict. It can, instead, be an opportunity to learn something new. It could be a chance to experience something unique, different, and though possibly awful — also potentially awesome.
Why don’t I understand? Because understanding is not just knowledge and being capable of thought. It is also applying your own headspace to the world at large.
Mindfulness opens you to more understanding
I believe that the more I understand about myself, the more I can help people gain their own understanding via my example. When I consciously create reality, walk my own path, and manifest the life I desire, in my example I can help others do the same.
This is a matter of practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is conscious awareness of what I am thinking, as well as what and how I am feeling, and the intentions behind any and all actions that I take or don’t.
You and I live in an abundant world full of potential and possibility. Different though we may be, we are also striving to understand ourselves. With that understanding, you are likely also working to understand the world around you, too.
There are always new worlds around me. I can build and cross bridges between them, even when I don’t understand everything about them. Yes, it can be frustrating sometimes. Yet, rather than see it negatively, I see it as a potential and a worthy challenge.
This can be a growth opportunity. It’s a matter of what I understand. And sometimes it’s also a matter of what I don’t understand, too.
There will always be things I just don’t understand — and that means there will always be new things I can work on learning.
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, whatever you do or don’t understand.