Why is Real Positivity About A Choice of Approach?
Positivity is a choice that combines thought, feeling, intent, and action.
There is no telling what life will hand you today.
No matter what you plan or prepare for, shit happens. People disappoint you, expectations aren’t met, and life will throw you curve balls out of nowhere.
One day you might think, hey, it’s only a quarter mile to the post office, and the weather doesn’t suck. I should walk rather than drive. A great idea, until you wake up in a hospital after a week of heavy sedation following getting hit by a car crossing the street. I sure as hell didn’t plan for that one.
This sort of randomness isn’t always bad, though. A woman I was totally into — who I didn’t think I had a chance with — unexpectedly made it clear that she was into me. Didn’t plan on that happening, especially in the way that it did, and I got a pleasant surprise.
Life is funny like that. It’s also utterly, thoroughly unpredictable. Just because you start your day out in a good mood doesn’t mean you won’t end it in a bad mood. Or vice versa. It’s also possible you spend most of your day completely neutral in your mindset/headspace/psyche conscious self, but something changes that to good and positive or bad and negative.
While you can’t control any of this, you do have a choice for how to approach life after anything of this sort occurs.
This is what genuine positivity is all about. Before we get into this, however, we must address the elephant in the room.
The falsehoods of toxic positivity
Do you remember Bobby McFerrin’s song, Don’t Worry, Be Happy? It was a real novelty song, both because it featured no instruments at all, and because it was a sugary dose of positivity.
“In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry, you make it double
Don’t worry, be happy.”
As a simple statement, this represents wisdom. When you worry you find and/or create more ways, reasons, and things to worry about.
Taken to the extreme, however, this can be both cloying and overblown. This gets to be especially problematic if…