When you leave your comfort zones and work your life away from familiarity, getting uncomfortable on purpose is precisely what you’re doing.
I hate this part.
There is nothing more disconcerting than effecting a major change in your life. Really, how crazy is it to move away from the comfortable, on purpose, in order to create something that may be better…or, possibly, might be worse?
But that is how consciousness creates reality. You make your choices, decide to take action, and when the day is done you manifest something new and different.
Why must it be uncomfortable? I can think of several reasons for this. For one, because when you are consciously choosing your destiny you are doing something new and different.
This society of lack and scarcity emphasizes creating comfort. Thus, stepping away from that is rebellious. You are also taught from a very young age that it should be something to fear.
When you consider how many mixed messages, paradoxes, and other so-called truths or “realities” we accept in modern society, it’s hard to believe we’re not more schizophrenic. Sex is dirty…but buy that product and you’ll get laid. Earn all the money you can…but the wealthy are evil. Be thin and healthy…but eat this delicious pie!
Is it any wonder so many people suffer depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses?
You get uncomfortable with change because you don’t know how it will turn out. Might be good, might be awful. It could be amazing and empowering or horrific and disempowering. The unknown, and the wide array of possible outcomes, good and bad, makes you squirm.
Is it any wonder you get uncomfortable with this? Why bother?
Because it is necessary. Because change is inevitable.
Get uncomfortable on purpose, or just get uncomfortable
Have you experienced an unexpected change that made you super-uncomfortable in the moment? It may or may not have passed quickly, but it happened? That’s what happens when you experience a change that you did not necessarily drive.
Some change is majorly uncomfortable, but most is only slightly so. That said, because all change is going to be the cause of some discomfort, this is why you would choose to take it in on purpose.
So here I go, making myself uncomfortable.
I applied for a job that I wasn’t overly thrilled about. But it has become necessary for me to generate more income. While I am still writing full-time, I have to pay the bills. I haven’t given up on this, but I also have to contribute to household income.
Well, the job I applied for is not what I wound up with. It turned out to be much, much better. I got to make use of both my writing and WordPress skills and opened up a much better experience.
Yet I was presented with still another opportunity. It is not what I would have pursued…and yet I can’t turn it down. I find that I am uncomfortable with this for several reasons.
Am I compromising myself for money? Is this really something I should be doing or is this something else entirely? Do I have what is necessary to do what is expected of me? Am I lying to myself?
See why I am feeling uncomfortable? Ultimately, the answer is entirely my choice. I am choosing to make the change, get uncomfortable, and see where this unexpected path leads me to.
Leaving your comfort zone is the only way to grow
Shaking up the status quo is necessary. If you keep doing what you are doing but not finding what you seek in life getting uncomfortable may be called for.
As I wrote previously, you will always feel a little discomfort, and that’s healthy. Without that discomfort, there is no impetus for growth, change, or evolution.
To grow, change, and evolve you need to get uncomfortable. This is counter-intuitive and generally counter to the expectations of modern society. Yet it’s a total and complete paradox that is unavoidable and necessary if you seek change in your life.
Why change? Because change is inevitable. It is a constant, unstoppable force that you can either resist, ride with, or strive to direct. Each and every change, great or small, presents these three options.
Further, different change situations will call for different responses at different times.
It is natural to establish comfortable places. I know that at every job where I have had a desk or office I performed acts of nesting. I brought in things to decorate my desk, like a Yoda figurine, a personal coffee mug, and various other trappings of the familiar and comfortable to have around me.
That’s part of the physical embodiment of a comfort zone. Yet comfort zones also exist in the mental and emotional realms.
For example, thinking about certain books, songs, movies, and other familiar things is comforting. Similarly, there are certain experiences and people that bring up comforting emotions. Thoughts and feelings are as much aspects of a given comfort zone as things, if not, sometimes, the majority of what makes your comfort zone.
Hence why getting uncomfortable is so disconcerting, disorienting, potentially upsetting, and often something you might resist. However, that doesn’t lessen its necessity.
The choice is yours
Yup, like so many other things in life, you get to decide if you will remain in a given comfort zone or get uncomfortable and change, evolve, and/or grow. The choice belongs to you and nobody else can choose for you, no matter what you may be told.
Yes, this can be uncomfortable. However, you can take the discomfort and instead shift it. Alter your perspective of the possibly uncomfortable and shift the notion instead to potentially enjoyable and exciting.
When you pause and consider what you are doing you can change the uncomfortable to something else. How? By being mindful of it and consciously shifting it.
Practicing mindfulness isn’t just awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, but consciousness of them here-and-now. Being mindful is also being present, rather than letting your subconscious drive you.
When you work to be mindful you might be surprised to find that a lot of the uncomfortable feelings are subconscious. The discomfort is based on concern and depression related to past experiences, and/or anxiety about future possibilities.
As Lao Tzu said,
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
The next time you are looking at getting uncomfortable, on purpose, take this into consideration. It’s true that getting uncomfortable on purpose seems kind of backward. Yet when you leave your comfort zones and work your life away from familiarity, getting uncomfortable on purpose is precisely what you’re doing for your own change, growth, self-improvement, and evolution.
In conclusion, let me quote Neale Donald Walsch,
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Will YOU get uncomfortable to live the best possible life that you can?
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter, even when you get uncomfortable.