There is an ongoing notion that there must always be more. More. More!
This gets applied to virtually every aspect of our lives. Tangibles and intangibles. We need more money. More time. We need more toys. More love.
This sparks pointless competition between people. We look to the homes and possessions of our friends and compare them to our own. Then, we equate success and achievement alongside those comparisons. When we don’t match up in certain ways — it can cause us to feel we don’t add up, either.
There is never enough of this, that, or the other thing. Just to add further insult to injury, then we create artificial perceptions of lack, scarcity, and insufficiency dominating almost every aspect of the world.
Too many of our so-called leaders love to use this to build their power. There aren’t enough jobs, money, and opportunities — the “other” are taking them from you — but I alone can save you from this. Disempower the masses and make them buy into the not-enough, lacking, scarce idea of reality.
This couldn’t be further from the truth. The Universe is abundant. There is plenty and more than enough of this, that, or the other thing. One seemingly finite resource can and will be replaced by something else. That’s the abundance of the Universe.
Caught up in this paradox of not enough and abundance — lack, scarcity, and insufficiency get applied to you and me. We feel we are not enough — and struggle with this mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I’d argue most conflicts we have come from this perception of not being enough.
But the truth is that you are enough. In every possible way.
The truth of you
You bring value to the world.
I know that might not feel true. Especially when you feel and think that you’re not enough. But you are enough. Truly, you are more than enough.
But there are going to be situations where you will feel inadequate, insufficient, unworthy, and like you’re not enough. When that happens, the first step is to accept, in the words of Brianna Wiest,
“The journey isn’t about convincing yourself that you’re enough, but loving yourself even if you aren’t.”
While you are enough — there will be times and situations where you won’t feel that you’re enough. And that’s okay — as the above quote reminds us, that’s part of the journey in life.
Everyone grows and evolves. Some people do so at a pace so glacially slow that they don’t appear to be growing or changing. Others seem to change at the drop of a hat, instantly.
Directed, controlled, or not — change is the one and only constant in the whole of the Universe. You, as such, change.
Part of change involves growth and evolution of yourself both literally and metaphorically. Thus, there will be points in your life journey where you experience the necessity to become more because you feel you’re not enough.
That’s when you need to love yourself even if you feel you aren’t — so that you can open the door to choose the path to grow into that more complete person who is you as the best you possible.
You have more potential and possibility than you imagine. Maybe you’re not an Einstein or a Tesla or a Curie — but you are still a conscious reality creator with nearly unlimited power.
In this way — you are enough.
Abundant potential and possibility
There is always room to grow.
Just because you don’t know something today doesn’t mean you can’t and won’t know it tomorrow. When there is something you truly desire to have in your life — the power to manifest it into reality is in you already.
It may be dormant. Possibly, it’s asleep. But it’s there, in your subconscious if not in your aware, present, conscious mind.
You are worthy and deserving of finding and/or creating these things. Despite messages to the contrary — direct or indirect, well-meaning or malicious — you are worthy and deserving of becoming who and what you desire to be.
Admittedly, this is easier for some than for others. Privilege is a thing. As a middle-class, cis-gendered, middle-aged white man, I am going to have a far easier time consciously creating my reality than an impoverished, transgendered, black twenty-something woman will. But I am not any more “enough” than she is.
What’s more, being enough today doesn’t mean you can’t be more tomorrow. But loving yourself where you stand in the here-and-now is how you can become more, and if you feel you’re not enough accept yourself for who you are and do what it takes to get to the next level.
Be enough for you, not for anyone else
This is important. It’s all too easy to feel as though we’re not enough in comparison to others. But how anyone else perceives you and me doesn’t matter.
In the eyes of some, I am never going to be enough. I’m not tough enough, smart enough, clever enough, or what-have-you. That’s their perception of me.
I’ve been practicing medieval rapier combat (fencing) for almost 30 years. I am atypical of fencers in that I’m short and heavyset.
The single best mistake an opponent can make is to judge me on my size and shape. More than once, I bested someone simply because they didn’t expect me to move as fast as I do in combat. Never judge a book by a cover — because the substance within is the real story.
As a fencer, I am enough. However — there’s room for improvement. I can sharpen my skills and get better. That’s for me to choose and decide. But even if I do — some will always see me as not enough. I can’t do anything for or about that.
The important part is perceiving myself as enough. When I don’t, is that due to what I believe I need or what I think others expect of me? If the former — there’s work to be done for growth and change. But if it’s the latter — I need to let it go and do what’s right for me to be enough for me — not them.
The one true judge of whether you are enough or not is yourself. The way you’re perceived by anyone else is not within your control. So, if you feel you’re not enough — is that because of change you desire for yourself — or — meeting the expectations of others?
Recognizing that you are enough isn’t hard
It begins with mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions.
Knowing that even if you feel that you’re not enough — so long as that’s about you and not how anyone else regards you — you are worthy of loving yourself and recognizing your abundance and awesomeness. When you strive to grow and change, be mindful that you do so for yourself. When you love yourself for who you are, see how you’re enough — and worthy and deserving of striving to become even better — that ultimately empowers you.
Feeling empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that gets reflected and spreads to more people. This creates a feedback loop of awareness and positivity. A feedback loop we can all take part in.
Then, we build more positive feelings and discover further reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That can be the impetus to improve numerous aspects of our lives for the better, help overcome the overwhelming negativity of any current situation, and generate yet more positivity and gratitude.
You, me, and everyone is worthy and deserving of all the good we desire.
An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of pure positivity. That positivity can generate even greater positive energies — and that is always worthwhile.
Originally published at https://titaniumdon.com on May 10, 2021.