Now that we are entering the New Year, a lot of people get into deep, contemplative self-evaluation. They look at the past year(s), where they are now, where they have been, where they still wish to go. Then they compare and contrast themselves to other people, some they know and some part of the big-picture world at large.
Particularly when you begin to look at people well outside of your own circles, it’s easy to come up short. You see the success of person ‘x’ doing the same shit you are doing, and feel lesser. Or you see how person ‘y’ managed to do that thing you always wanted to do, and become disillusioned.
Success is a vague notion that, like perception, is unique to everyone. The level at which I see success it probably different from your version. Additionally, the very definition of success is going to be specific to everyone and is complicated and often elusive.
Shall we throw another wrinkle into this idea? There are people in your life, some even well-intentioned, who also gage where your success should be. Even though it is most important that you think and feel for you, because of human nature you still seek various degrees and levels of validation. So when someone you care about, for example, makes it clear you don’t measure up, that just makes it harder.
Even more so if it’s indirect and unspoken.
However…no matter where you have been, or where you are going, intentionally or otherwise, I want you to know that you measure up.
You are worthy
It is all too easy to go online, watch TV, or otherwise be shown “successful” people. They got elected, won the race, achieved the impossible, did or do great or terrible things. The bar can often feel as if it is being ever-raised and neigh on impossible to be reached by everyday people like you and me.
That is total and complete bullshit. You are worthy of whatever goals and intentions you set out within this life. You didn’t have to be born into a well-known family with a big name that is globally recognized. Nor did you have to pass some test or otherwise be weighed and measured.
You are worthy. You have worth, value, and are worthy of loving and being loved. It does not matter if you have come from any form of privilege, some minority, or some other artificial specialness. Nope, you are simply and plainly worthy.
What does that mean? It means that whatever you seek to do, be, or have, you are worthy of it. Whoever you are or would choose to be, you are worthy of it.
So long as you are not actively or intentionally hurting, harming, or otherwise denying and disempowering other people for your own life gains, you are worthy of anything and everything.
You are deserving
Nobody is more deserving than anyone else of health, happiness, wealth, peace of mind, mindfulness, and overall abundance than anyone else. You are as deserving as any other that does what you do, no matter how big or small that is.
You needn’t prove yourself to anyone else. There is no need for you to achieve something special. Because you are who you are and you are living in this world at this time, you are deserving of anything and everything you set out to do.
There is no need for you to be someone special, recognizable, or somehow important — you ARE, even without the well-known name. You are not less deserving than anyone else. Why? Because you are who you are, doing what you do.
It is very easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of media, and measure yourself against others who have achieved greatness (or even, in certain circumstances, simple equilibrium). Yet they are no more deserving than you are.
The only reason you could be lacking in worth or be undeserving is if you intentionally do bad things. Any action you take that causes other people harm, whether physical, mental or emotional, is problematic. If you knowingly deny someone else their rights, hold them down, or stomp them out, you make yourself undeserving and unworthy — because you know what you do isn’t good.
I presume if you are reading this that you strive to do good things. Sure, you are going to screw it up, because as a human you will make mistakes and cause hurt and harm. But unless it’s intentional on your part it’s just another aspect of the human experience.
You can’t tell anyone else how to think and feel, so you can’t help change how that goes.
You measure up
What matters is that whatever you do, you measure up. You are a good person doing good things in the world at large. Maybe your impact won’t be felt globally, but you WILL have an impact on the world at large.
How? Because with very few exceptions, you interact with others. Those interactions, whether with people you know or total strangers, have an impact on the world.
Holding the door for a stranger can brighten their day. Telling a friend you love them can ease someone’s tension. Cuddling with a loved one generates peace and calm.
I share my work because I desire to be an influence on people. When it comes to mindfulness, conscious reality creation, and positivity, I want to spread these ideas further. You don’t have to be “special” any more than you already are. I want you to see that you are worthy, deserving, and capable of anything.
When it comes to fiction, I want to open imaginations, stir creative juices, and tell stories that excite, entice, and entertain. It is my desire to tell these stories rattling around in my brain.
No, I am not a Coelho, Gaiman, Tolkien, Sincero, Robbins, Ruiz, or otherwise well-known and established author. Does that make me less than any of these? No.
I would like to reach the same levels of success they have. But I have had success. I write these articles daily. I have published multiple fictions to share of my own accord. There is daily practice honing my craft and constantly learning.
I am worthy and deserving of what I have as well as what I desire.
YOU are worthy and deserving of what you have as well as what you desire. Don’t forget that, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
No matter who you are, you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything.
Approach this New Year not with trepidation and concern, but with hope and excitement. You are worthy and deserving of anything you set out to do. This New Year can be the opportunity and the impetus for you to expand, grow and find your truest self.
Practice mindfulness and be aware of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Use this awareness to see how worthy and deserving you are, and keep building more and better for yourself.
I know that you are awesome, and I hope that you can see it, too. All you have to do is just be, and keep just being you.
Happy New Year. Let’s go kick some asses, shall we?
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you and I matter. Happy New Year!