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helpYou Only Can Help You
It’s important to be there for your friends and loved ones…but this is more important.
There is only one you. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you.
Yet if you are a caring person, you are probably a giver. As such, likely you put yourself last.
What’s more, it’s all-too-easy to believe that any other option is an act of selfishness. Of course you come last. Other people in your life, your friends and especially your loved ones, can and should come first.
But that’s not entirely true. While it’s important to be kind, generous, and helpful, when all is said and done, no matter your intention, you can only help you.
Let me be blunt here. You can and should do things to help other people. Lend a hand, hold doors, be a shoulder and an ear and even an opinion when asked for one. Do good things for people to help them. But know that when all is said and done, no matter what and how much you do for anyone — you can only help you in the end.
What does that even mean?
Inside your head, you are all alone. There is nobody but you in there thinking, feeling, and choosing how to act and not. Of course, there are times you will receive information from other resources, people, and things that will enter into your head. Even so…
