When you are working with conscious reality creation and choosing a path for your life, it is important to recognize that there is not just more than one path, but that you will choose different paths at different times. But this is a very good thing.
Why? Because what you desire for your life in your twenties is not going to be what you desire in your thirties. Or forties. Or fifties. And so on.
Hell, it’s even possible that what you desire today is not what you wanted yesterday. Human beings are ever-changeable, which can be incredibly frustrating…but also pretty damned awesome.
How does that even work? First, remember that life is absurd. But you get to choose what your life is going to look like. As I wrote before, creating a pocket of logic and reason and sensibility around your own existence is your birthright. What this means is that you have the ability to find paths for your own life, and they will make sense to you. They may ONLY make sense to you, but that’s not a bad thing.
Paths, plural. Sometimes there is more than one path at a time at the moment. Other times it’s a matter of current desire versus past desire.
Examples from my own paths
When I was in college, though I was only semi-consciously working on walking my own path in life, there were two primary goals I had in mind.
My college degree is in professional theatre. I wanted to be a director. While running the non-theatre-department drama club, I produced and directed a half-dozen plays. I had big ideas for how I would become a director, and even envisioned notions for my own theatre company.
A few years out of college I had one foray into semi-professional theatre. That one month gig managed to kill almost all my desire to work in theatre any more.
I was a DJ with radio stations at my college. I thoroughly loved this role. During the summer between my junior and senior year, I was one of the eight students selected to run the station over the break for pay. This was super cool, and I loved working in radio.
I got a part-time, fill-in gig at one of the local stations for an overnight here-or-there, paying minimum wage. When another local station was hiring I applied — but got strung along because the station manager REALLY wanted a female DJ.
I knew that to do this professionally I may have to relocate to the middle-of-nowhere, USA, and work in a music genre I was less-than-happy with. Unwilling to make that choice, my radio career ended not long after college.
Now, more than 20 years later, neither of those paths hold any appeal at all. That’s a good thing, though…because who I was then is not at all who I am now.
I know me, you know you
The only person inside my head is me. Thus, only I can think and feel as I do. Further, that means that the only person who knows what path or paths is best for me is me.
This is true for you as well.
Our fear-based society tends to look upon any choices that deviate from the norm as suspect. So if you are working on something outside of the usual, chances are you have faced any or all of the following remarks:
- Do you realize how hard making money that way is?
- What if you fail?
- How does your significant other feel about you doing that?
- Shouldn’t you have a back-up plan?
- I believe in you, but I am telling you this because I think you should know…
- You do know how many new businesses fail in the first year, right?
- Making money as a writer/artists/singer/dancer/actor only works for a select few…
And so on and so forth. The thing is, while much of this is meant to be “well-meaning” it can still hurt. You may be made to feel as if choosing whatever path or paths you are choosing is going to do harm. But you know what it is you are about, and as such you know that only you can choose what is right for you.
Yes, it is probable this will change. A part of that is a matter of growth. Human beings are constantly learning and growing and changing. Evolving. As such, different things will move you at different times. You may learn something that alters your path or outright changes it along the way.
Paths can change direction
When I first decided I wanted to write full-time, I used to be hell-bent on my success coming from my fiction. That was my goal and focus. Now, though, I want any and all of my writing to be of equal importance.
While traversing a given path in life, you will encounter obstacles, twists and turns, detours, and other unexpected things. This is why the journey itself, and living in the now, are so important. You never know what you will learn, discover, or experience along the way.
You may also find that the path you are on now is not the path for you. It may have started out that way, but it can (and possibly will) change.
Change is only scary if you allow it to be. But in truth, change is utterly and completely inevitable, and you cannot avoid it. The Universe is in a constant state of change…but this is not a bad thing.
Why? Because it means that nothing is truly permanent, save death (this is permanent in that you are no longer occupying that meat popsicle you call your body for roaming around the planet — the transmutation of your energy after death is a whole other matter). This means that if things are not as you would desire for them to be, you can change them.
You see this trope in movies, TV, and literature all the time. Somebody creates a whole new identity for themselves and becomes someone different to effect a change. In both the book and the musical Les Misérables, for example, Jean Valjean changed his identity multiple times to lead his life and remain free. This is not so far-fetched as it may seem.
Be the best you that you can be
Choosing the path that is most right for you is all about working to be the best you that you can be. What that means is that you get to work on living life as it best suits you. So long as your actions do not intentionally cause harm or hurt to anyone else, your path is right for you.
Unless your intent is to deny someone else their rights or hurt them mentally, physically, or emotionally, choosing your own paths is not a selfish act. Selfishness is all about taking for yourself and in the process denying for others, whatever form that holds.
Further, you are worthy and deserving of making choices to better your life. Whatever paths you choose you deserve. You need not be anyone special or wealthy or somehow entitled. As a human being on this planet, you are worthwhile, and you deserve to choose what makes you feel most alive.
In the course of your lifetime, you will walk more than one path. Though it may seem daunting, this is a really good thing, because as you change, so do your paths and the choices that light you up. Don’t let the naysayers or your own doubts overwhelm and keep you from living the best life you can. Know that your paths are meant for you, and you have every right to choose them, change them, walk them, or even leave them.
Go for it. Be the best you that you can be, whatever paths you choose.
What path or paths are you on today?
You are worthy and deserving of using your mindfulness to find and/or create the reality in which you desire to live. When all is said and done you matter, and you can choose whatever paths you desire for your life.
Originally published at http://titaniumdon.com on August 14, 2019.